My husband and i are 38. We have 3 kids. Our oldest daughtor is 20, our son is 18, and our other son is 13. I know, they are 5 years apart. It sounds weird how i am 38, with a 20 year old daughtor. I was 18 when i had my daughtor, 20 when i had my son, and 25 when i had my youngest son. I really want to have another baby, but im not because it would be way to weird to have a newborn and a 20 year old. I have waited to long with my 13 year old, and now i want another baby, i waited way to long. 13 years! Do you think i waited to long to have another baby?
2006-12-12 11:43:25 · 21 answers · asked by Hayvynne Lachenski 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Nope, one of my mom's friends just had a baby at 44 and she already has a daughter who is 18. If you and your husband really want another child then go for it. A warning though, you older children may not like it so much but when the baby comes they will be glad to have a younger sibling. Good Luck!
2006-12-12 13:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I say go for it, if you want another baby. My mom is 49. She's had 6 kids. My brother, who is deceased, would be 30 .She had him at 18. Then from there, she has me(28), my brother(26), my sister(23) a still born who would be 22, and my half brother who is 14. And she is sorry that she can't have anymore. There are 14 years between me and the youngest, and it was never really wierd. In fact it has it's advantages. You will be more patient and have more time to spend with the new baby, you will have help in the form of your older children, your older children will enjoy having the baby around more so than they would have if they were all younger, and your youngest will have the oldest ones to look up to. It is win-win for everyone.
2006-12-12 17:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My aunt accidently got pregnant when her oldes was 20. The youngest is now 13 and the boys have such a close relationship. They go out to ball games and stuff all the time. So the kids will get along well. As far as you are concerned, you will get a lot of help and emotional support from the older kids since they are mature enough to know the stress a newborn causes. Besides if you still feel young and you truly want another baby, you will regret it if you don't follow your heart.
2006-12-12 13:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's Ma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My teacher and his wife just did the same thing. They waited 13 years and had another baby the only thing is they're in their 40s. But, they love it. I don't think 38 is too old to have a baby and so what that you've guys waited this late. You have a 13 year old that will always have to babysit. I think it's cute! Good luck! I also had my first baby at 18, I'm 19 now lol. :-)
2006-12-12 12:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
38 is not to old to have another baby. Since you have had other children already you are not that high of a risk for genetic disorders due to age. I say if your husband is for it, go for it! Just make sure this isn't something your wanting to do for that empty nest kind of feeling, or because your getting close to 40.
As for the ages between your kids.. Ehhh I wouldn't worry about that, My girls are 8 years apart. I had my oldest at 19 and my youngest at 27. So if you both want it go for it!! Don't worry about what anyone else says or feels.
2006-12-12 11:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Issym 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband both want a baby- go for it!! 38 is not at all old. I had my daughter young- I was 21. I'm 23 now, so when I'm 38, she'll be 17. My parents had me when my two older brothers were 15 and 16. Hey- you'll probably find taking care of a newborn is easier now- you've had lots of experience!! Good luck and God bless!!
2006-12-12 14:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww......Sweety, if you see a doctor and he says that you are healthy enough to have another baby then I say go for it! How does your husband feel about another baby? If you are both OK with it, why not? I don't think the years between children are an issue. What matters is that you are a loving couple who want another child in your lives to love, raise and enjoy! Do it if you can and really want to. If it's God's will then nothing else matters!
Good luck!!
2006-12-12 11:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by pillowtalk504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would matter on the situation. a chum of mine dated approximately 6 years till now getting married because of the fact she replaced into ill most of the time and could not circulate with the aid of with the marriage basically yet. If it replaced into something like that, i might wait a whilst. If all circumstances have been suited (or as much as they might yet) so a approaches as money, a house, and different issues, i might nonetheless wait a pair years and be content. i've got been engaged for a million.5 years precise now, and is basically not married for yet another a million.5 years. i'm affected person i think.
2016-12-11 07:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you have waited to long. Maybe you could try adopting? It's just a suggestion. I am an adoptive mother, I think it would be a great way to have another child. I know the baby phase is so sweet, but so is the toddler years. Good Luck on whatever you decide.
2006-12-12 20:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not weird or too long a wait. If you and your husband want another child, and are physically, emotionally and financially able to care for this baby... GO FOR IT! I have a 14 year old, and almost 4 year old and an adoption in progress. I'll be 40 in February, my husband 43 in January. You have your children when God sends them to you.
2006-12-12 11:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋