i'm 12 and looking for motherly advice whith out asking my mother
2006-12-12 11:38:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to your mom, they always know best. Even if you and your mom aren't very close you should try talking to her. A mom is one of the best things any girl can have.... be glad you have her while you do even if you may not like what she does all the time
2006-12-12 11:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you!
When I was 12 I had HUGE breasts, guys kept ogling me and girls kept teasing me about their size (though they are the ones now probably getting implants LOL).
I wore baggy shirts and walked around a little hunched over, and it did not stop the ogling. I hated gym class because they bounced and were so heavy when I ran, and anything with gymnastics they had me do I hated it. The back, neck, and shoulder pain, as well as the grooves dug into my shoulders because of my size, were horrible.
I hate to say this, but try TRY to ignore them! I know its hard, as I said I was well endowed.
Talk to your mom about this. Why do you not want to talk with her about it?
Another suggestion would be, AFTER you are done fully growing, is to look at having a breast reduction. With all of my issues, I went and checked out breast reduction surgery, and went from a 38J to a 38C and my back feels so much better for it, and I'm not ogled as much by men.
Below I posted a website, where you and your mother can check out many many others getting a breast reduction (and having it covered by insurance!!!). Register for the forum and check it out!
2006-12-12 19:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna be straight with you. I'm 28yrs old and a man, sweetie your never gonna get men to stop looking at you. I know it has got to be weird and all but 99% of striaght men are perverts who ,when they see a woman the first thing they think of is how she'd be in bed.Even more sick is grown men who look at you now at 12 and think the same thing. I'm sorry I know I was no help but I thought you could use a "heads up" as to why they stare and I'm sorry you have to go through this at such a young age. I guess you helped me more than I helped you I have a 10 yr old daughter who is starting to develop so I guess i need to figure out what to say to her now when this comes up.
2006-12-12 19:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by plumbinmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well here is some from a dad who has a daughter of 16 and back then had the same problem. First of all I told her to be proud of who she is and what she looks like, and boys are going to stare. Nothing goes through theirs every 40 seconds out of every minute but Sex, but if you feel uncomfortable then bind your breasts upa little but not to the pointof hurting. I really like the first part!
2006-12-12 19:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had C cups in 4th grade, I've been there girl. lol. I used to get so embarassed when the boys would comment on or snap my bra strap, so I started wearing a tight leotard under my clothes. It sucked them in and made them less noticable. By about junior high, no one cared anymore. All the girls had boobs and some were bigger than mine. They became an asset then. ;)
2006-12-12 19:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's breasts (not brest) and you can't get them to stop...they are male and they are going to notice them...especially since not all the other girls your age have them.
It's just part of life sugar. Some of us develop faster than others, and in different directions than others.
If it is quite troubling to you, wear loose shirts or clothing that doesn't emphasize them. You are likely to appreciate them a few years down the road...but I understand that right now they are just an embarrassing drag...
Hang in there!
2006-12-12 19:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess this is something that you may unfortunately have to get used to. Most men like looking at women's figures
2006-12-12 19:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I realize I'm a guy and you wanted motherly advise, but really I'm a guy.
no matter what you do, guys are always going to stare at your boobs, the best thing that you might beable to do is wear a really baggy sweater, it might work and it might not.
sorry if that doesn't help you.
2006-12-12 19:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by Hurley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
boys are like this and i know it would make you feel uncomfortable but i don't think there is allot you can do about it except maybe change the style of cloths you wear
don't get to down about it though little boys are just curious about that type of stuff but if they start to make comments or gestures about your breasts tell a teacher are some one that can do something about the problem
2006-12-12 19:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wear more things to cover them up so the boys wont stay at you.i had that same problem when i was 12 but now my breasts match with me,so it will get better i promise
2006-12-12 19:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by redhotcutiegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋