I am totally in love with my boyfriend and I would love to be with him for a really long time but I think that he is too over weight for his age and height. He is 22 and 6'1" and I think he is about 222lbs and it's not muscle its fat. I'm really not shallow I just want him to be healthy because if he is this weight at 22 I can't imagine what he would be like at 32!
I would exercise with him and all that to help him but we live so far away it is hard to do that. I was just wondering how do you think i could tell my boyfriend he needs to lose some weight without sounding rude?
2006-12-12 11:27:30 · 34 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw I'm 18 and a slim size 4, 110lbs.
2006-12-12 11:29:17 · update #1
To the question...Why did you go out with him in the first place?
Because he is a great person with a great personality. I love him very much so and wont leave him if he doesn't lose the weight. I just want him to lose the weight to be healthy, like many people have said being so overweight can activate a heart attack and that's my biggest worry.
2006-12-12 12:08:01 · update #2
ALSO - I got the weight very wrong I would say he about 270lbs not 222lbs.
2006-12-12 13:08:59 · update #3
Love and accept him the way he is.
It sounds like you are half way there.
If you don't nag or tease him he will probably get in shape on his own before he turns 30.
Tell him you would like to do more activities with him.
Walks in the country or down the beach,tennis,racket ball,scuba diving, take a dance class, water skiing, snow skiing,you could both join a gym or whatever you would like.
Any of the above activities will help him get in shape.
If you cook for him, only prepare healthy low fat foods.
This site should give you some good healthy recipes
http://www.foodnetwork.com/food/lf_health
Above all keep your love life very active as sex is one of the best ways to keep in shape.
2006-12-12 11:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dave Yours Truly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well then at the rate he's going you shouldn't have to worry, he won't be around that long.
I just came from my cardiologist check-up. I had a heart attack a few years ago. I also had six bypasses. You could tell him to start saving for one. About 88K
Or, he can start exercising. like running with you (you can ride a bike) go to the nearest spa that has a swimming pool, that would be great. Get into a program, that would be the best thing.
My grandson is 26, 6 foot 2 and 286 (fat) he stopped drinking beer, walked everyday until he hit five miles, it took a year, he did diet also on his own, he's a trim 160 now, no flab. Looking for a girlfriend, he an electrical contractor, has his own place. To bad I can't get your name Huh!
2006-12-12 11:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always tell him how much you'd find it a turn-on if he had a little more muscle. I'm sure you could find ways to make it convincing!
If you do want to bring up the issue of his weight, I recommend doing it when you're there with him (and possibly in a public place), where you can deal with him if he gets upset about it. Chances are good he's already self-conscious about it, so make sure you make it loud and clear that you love him and find him attractive but worry about his health. You could compare it to a drinking problem or smoking, if that would help.
Good luck! Obesity can be a problem, and like many other things, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound (or a couple dozen pounds) of cure.
2006-12-12 11:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being shallow. Sometimes love and acceptance is all someone needs to want to better themselves. His height and weight does not sound that bad. He will never be tiny like you or even close. There is no way to tell him how you feel without sounding rude. Just curious, why did you go out with him in the first place?
2006-12-12 11:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to love him for who he is and not try to change him...you can suggest weightloss (for health reasons, of course) but if he doesn't go for it or doesn't stick with it, then what do you do?
If he's heavy now it's likely that he's going to have weight issues in the future, unless some lightbulb goes off and he gets it under control.
The US Army weight chart that I just looked at online says they'd want him to be at 200 lbs max...Metropolitan Life Insurance weight guideline suggests 192 max.
He's not obese but might want to catch it now before it goes that way. Won't hurt to say something to him, just don't pester and realize if he's not interested in doing anything about it, that's his right.
2006-12-12 11:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell him that he needs to lose weight..he knows !! what he need is more encouragement from you and motivation from him..
at his height, and his age..there is hope...
He is very lucky to have you thinking about his health but some who are having trouble to deal with their weight don't get this ..it would hurt their feeling the more you mention it to them..but if you mention something...do it lovingly...
If you are worry about 10 years from now.. check the family history..if someone of the family is big just like your BF..there might be a chance that he would be a big guy even you wait for 10 years more and now consider how you gonna deal with these..... all he needs is maintain his health and watch his food intake.. he will be fine...
just like if a person is short,,and mom is short and the rest are tall...that's not mean it is his fault.... but still he need to do something to look and feel tall..
what matter is what is inside. how big is his heart....
OK, OK I watched that Biggest Loser series....
the winner has lost 52% of his normal weight..I guess he owes that to the people who supported him through this hard training and for himself. I don't worry much about heart attack..it could happen to anyone well, hope you and your sweetheart would start thinking about your future if you thinking about 10 years from now..
2006-12-12 11:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you are worried about his health and weight. You don't want to be one of those people that invest SO much love and time in to someone and just have them die off from a heart attack.
It's ok to look out for your own feelings.
2006-12-12 11:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn...thats harsh...unless it is all fat he is not that bad...hell I am 5'11", 217 but I lift a lot, but some of it is fat, and I am not that bad...I think...lol...
But I would just tell him you are worried about his health and his future...and dont have any junk food around the house, encourage him to hit the weight room (get him a gym membership for xmas!!!!)...he should want to look good for you on his own though...
2006-12-12 11:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl...but there is nothing to do...
He have to decide to loose weight, you can't make him loose weight if he don't want. Trust me, i tried. But, i found out that man can be body conscience when they see them self in a picture, especialy next to another man. For christmans makes some picture of him...and maybe he will be conscience of how he looks and will decide by himself to loose weight, Be careful!!! do not put him down and make sure that he will not get depress from that.
2006-12-12 11:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could just say that you are concerned for his health like heart disese, heart attack and alot of other things. Just tell him that you want him to be around so that you can grow old together and you would like to see him get healthy. Good Luck
2006-12-12 11:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋