A friend of mine is 24, and recently a good looking, successful, genuine, rich 43-year-old guy asked her out. She finds herself attracted to him, which is weird b/c she has a boyfriend (who she's been dating for a year and a half.) She told this guy that she'll think about his offer.
Since she's starting to have feelings for this guy, do you think she should go out with him, or is the age difference (and the fact that she has a man) too great?
2006-12-12 11:23:29 · 19 answers · asked by xxtra chocolate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is all about how you feel. If you feel comfortable dating someone older then do it dont worry about what anyone else might think!
2006-12-12 11:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by ReRe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your friend best be careful. The age difference is so great (plus he is rich and good looking) that in the long term they will have problems. The guy comes from a different era and will have problems relating to your friend. Initially things will be fine, but if the relationship grows your friend will find that she will feel uncomfortable interacting with people in their middle 40's and early 50's (which his friends will be), and worse she will be looked at as a trophy by his friends and people on the outside. So while she may want to entertain the idea of a dinner with no strings attached, she may find herself losing a caring guy (the current boyfriend), and have to started all over again with someone else in the near future.
2016-05-23 16:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, their reasons for dating each other are likely to be other than chemistry and a "good match"...he's probably digging the idea of dating a 20-something since he's middle aged (she'll be nice to show off to his friends and associates) and she probably finds his wealth appealing as it's easier to be with someone who has money, than have to make your own.
She's grown and it's her business but I'd question each of their actual motives and the liklihood of actual "love" being any kind of motivation here...but then I've never been attracted to someone 20 yrs older (or younger) than me...
2006-12-12 11:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is just looking for more variety. She should try and improve her current relationship with her boyfriend so she doesn't get the temptation to cheat because she is bored with him. But if it's not working out between them, she could take a chance with the older gentleman and see what becomes of it. It's her choice, really.
2006-12-12 11:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by classicalgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesnt matter, I am 22 and my husband is 36, and age difference is what keeps up going! But that has nothing to do with cheating, especially when she is in a long serious relationship with someone already, and if that is going downhill, she needs to tell her man and not drag it out any longer, then she is free to do as she wishes!
2006-12-12 11:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by nogoodnamesrleft468 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i guess it does seem kind of weird. tell her to think about how when she is 40 he would be 59. But dont forget that age isnt the most important thing, like the 2nd answer said, its about the cultural difference
2006-12-12 11:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually that is gross in my opinion, 19 years is alot of difference. He will be wanting to stay at home and she will be wanting to go out and so on. I would stick closer to my age, if she doesn't want the one she has now then move on. Good luck.
2006-12-12 11:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not go out with him. She should go with me instead, I'm 47. Just kidding. If she does go with him it probably wont last. I think she feels important by the attention she is getting from the older guy. It's a novelty that will soon fade.
2006-12-12 11:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by CLAUDE D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are happy, then butt out!
If this older guy has a reputation for using and leaving, then don't bother....but do the research on him first. Age is just a thing...nothing more!
2006-12-12 11:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,if shes really attracted to him then maybe.but that'll be a year and a half relationship thrown away.the age difference doesnt mean anything,especially if hes genuine and nice.
2006-12-12 11:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she has alot to think about right now. its not as simple as the age difference. if she is attracted to this other man, perhaps it is because she is missing something in her relationship that she sees in him. i advise her to be careful, does she even know this man? or maybe its a purly phsical or financial attraction.
2006-12-12 11:29:01 · answer #11 · answered by sexyhot_dancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋