sad at xmas?

Question

i am totally sad,and confused about xmas this year..I have a sister,brother,and a mom,my dad passes away 10 years ago.I am married and have 2 girls of my own..My sister is very difficult to get along with and we got in a fight about 6 mnths ago..She decided she didnt want me in her life anymore,(the fight was that I couldnt go out with her 1 night)..had others,but this honestly is what happened this go around.Every year we switch off who is going to have xmas at their house,my brother doesnt have it and thats ok,my mom wont go because the house is a disaster,and it really is,,she is very nice but a huge slob,so they just come to our homes..Ive accepted it,and I dont even care about that...Well my sister invited my whole family except for us..When I found that out I asked my mother,did u say anything to her,my mother said yes and she responded she didnt want me in her home,,I have always been the acomadator to her,and have always forgiven her for things ,dont ya think my mom is wrong??

Answer 1

Put yourself in your mothers shoes, its hard to pick between her children. I am sure you feel betrayed be on belief. I dont think it is right for your sister not to have you over. It's a shame when family gets into fights where they wont speak to each other. I always sit there and think, if people are fighting, and in the middle of the fight what if one of you (God for bit it) dies. Then the remaining person has that gulit....this happened to my mom and my grandmother. My grandmother died when my mom and her were fighting. I didnt like the after affects of what happened. Try to speak to your sister. You need to have communation.

Answer 2

Yes, your mom is wrong to choose one over the other. Can your mom go to your sisters and then come to yours?

Answer 3

thats the way it is here.. I have me and 3 sisters, mom
got killed earlier.... we take turns, they don't like
coming to my house cause it's a disaster too..... but they
do.... cause the first year they said something...... I told
them if you came to see my house, you can leave,
if you came to see me we will have x-mas....
that was 16yrs. ago.... we have x-mas here at my house
more than theres....