I'm 25, have been married for over a year (with my hubby for several years before that), and I've been bitten by the pregnancy bug. In college, I always said that I never wanted to have kids--not that I didn't like them, I just thought they weren't for me. But now, I feel like I'm ready.
I've told my husband what's been going on and he thinks we should wait a good 4 or 5 years. Financially, we're doing great, and we're about to buy our first home next year, so, of course, I think this is the right time.
What do you think? I know it has something to do with a shift in hormones. Has anyone else gone throught this? I'm currently on the pill and don't want to go off it until we're ready to conceive.
I'd love to hear your perspective.
Thanks!
2006-12-12 10:31:50 · 10 answers · asked by lalalola775 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Also, I should mention that many of my hubby's friends have had bad experiences with their girlfriends getting pregnant (i.e. they stopped taking b.c. without their guy knowing.) I don't want it to be like that--I want both of us to want one...
2006-12-12 10:39:35 · update #1
First of all you have to consider the age thing it is alot harder for women to conceive in there 30's. It all depends on how many children that you want too?? I was 19 when i fell pregnant with my first then 4 months after she was born we bought a house and i am now 22 and we pregnant again 24 weeks. If you really want a baby you need to tell your husband that you want one soon or you are going to be hanging there waiting for the go ahead from him. That can be painful. If i was you i would wait till you have your house then come off the pill and see what happens it might not happen straight away if you have been on the pill for a long time. It can take up to 6 months for the pill to be fully out of your system. Good luck i hope i have helped. wish you all the best
2006-12-12 10:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by regie811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pregnant behind your husbands back like someone suggested. I would talk with him and say: I want a baby now you want one in 4 years. Can we compromise? Let him know that if you wait for the "perfect time" then you will never have kids. There will always be something that someone can use as an excuse not to have a child. Just make sure your emotionally ready then of course financially. Good Luck and Take Care.
2006-12-12 18:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful that you want to have kids, that just brings tears to my eyes, I have 4 children, and trust me I know exactly what you are talking about the "pregnancy bug", I think deep down you have always wanted to be a mother you just didn't know it, and if you are feeling that way, I really think you are ready. I think 25 is a great age to start having a family. You will really be able to relate to the child when they are a teenager because you would only be like 38. It sounds like you are financially stable, and buying a house, like you wrote. Also if you have been on birth control for a long time, it can take a while to get pregnant anyways. It is so nice to read on here about someone who actually wants to have children. Good Luck with whatever you decide.
2006-12-12 18:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats great that you are doing good financially! Since you are moving into a house soon, i wouldnt try for a baby just yet. You are probably going to be stressing over the house, moving, and the change. I would just wait until you get settled into your new house, and then sit down with your husband and talk about a baby. I think that would be a great thing to do, and a baby would definitely bring some new charm into your life!
2006-12-12 18:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Paige 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do think that there is a time for every woman when she feels the "maternal bug"...i am in the same sit. as you..but my husband is not in a position right now to handle a baby..so we have decided to put off for another year or two...
the biggest strain on your marriage will be to have a child that you knew your partner was not ready for..having a baby is HUGE..for you and your hubby..so respect him by not tricking him into getting you pregnant.Compromise on a time with him and in the meantime, get your body and mind ready for carrying a child! good luck!
2006-12-12 18:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by mkgjeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you go off the pill. tell your husband too. that way if you're really meant to have a child, you'll get pregnant. or you could negotiate and wait only a year or so. prepare yourself for being pregnant. im only in college and ive been bitten too. but i know i cant right now, cause should i bring a child into this world, i know i could not support him. but ya'll are ready to have a child and can support him/her. talk to your husband. wait a year or two but that's it. i see where you're husband's coming from cause you just started a new chapter in ya'lls life. but ya'll are a team now. you make decisions together.
2006-12-12 18:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your husband and compromise and communicate with him. Just because you are ready doens't mean that he is. It would be unfair to pressure someone you love into something that they didn't want to do just because of some stupid biological urges.
2006-12-12 18:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, "forget" birth control at just the right time. And be like.. "honey, im pregnant." theres no going back...
;-)
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-12 18:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Liva M. 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
WELL IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE THOUGHT IT THROUGH. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-12 18:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE A BABY NOW!!!!!!!!!! IM NOT MAKING A SAGESTION EITHER IM TELLIN U J/P =D
2006-12-12 18:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋