I invited a male friend to a party at a pub. He's not my boyfriend but I was using it as a chance to get to know him better. I really want to date this guy. Two other girls and myself were treating our adult students to drinks at this pub. I thought since I was paying for the students, I should cover for my male friend too. I treated him to an appetizer too. He seemed shocked that I wanted to pay. He offered money for the drinks and I said no, that it was okay. He seemed a little hurt. Did I do something really wrong? I felt like I was treating him because he bought me a drink last time. Later, I felt bad--like I was refusing his generosity. I think this hurt my dating chances. He didn't seem so enthusiastic in his voice when he said "maybe we'll see each other again soon". My female friends think I was a dunce. They always make their guys pay or at least go dutch.
2006-12-12 10:30:19 · 25 answers · asked by sugar1973 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont worry about that
guys love to pay all the time
2006-12-12 10:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my attitude as a woman he sounds dull. He doesn't have any opposite direction to apply his time or his money except get wasted and talk garbage. i love going and doing those issues yet like you're saying, not each and each and every of the time. i imagine he truly hasn't some thing exciting happening in existence, no objectives or ideas, pursuits or plans. He has not some thing happening except putting out. If I were you age i ought to opt for to bypass to gigs with my boyfriend, head to the coastline with a collection of pals or some stupid camping out vacation, or have a fish fry at someone's' residing house besides as dinner and romantic stuff each and every so often. I went out with a guy like yours once. It lasted about a month. He replaced right into a very good guy yet slightly a boy and by no skill wanting to guy up or do adventurous issues. finally i noticed he appeared suited yet had no sex attraction because he had no ideas, no spark, no plans, no objectives.
2016-11-30 12:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are dating, paying dutch or you pay is fine. The problem is since you are not going out with him yet and you declined his offer to pay, he is not sure if you are interested in him. The fact that he offer to pay could mean he is interested in a more romantic relationship but know he is scared you're not. It is NOT to late, just ask him "if the offer to buy me a drink is still open? I think it would be really nice" That will solve it.
2006-12-12 10:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by blewmoon2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was a neaderthal and still living in the 1950s. But I think most modern men would be thrilled by a woman wanting to do that. (It's not the money it's the act).
2006-12-12 10:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you can relax because (unless this guy is REALLY SHALLOW) you have nothing to worry about. This guy was probably just surprised that you wanted to pay, because it is customary for men to pay for drinks, food, etc. when hanging out with girls (date or not). Don't worry about it.
2006-12-12 10:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a bad thing but saying no to when he wants to pay isn't the best way to go about it
try just letting him pay and slip the money back at him somehow if you or agree you pay this time he pays next and so on
2006-12-12 10:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I get your number? I would be more than happy to go out with a chick who wud like to pay for drinks and meals!! thats heaven!
2006-12-12 10:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by way2mei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know I'm insecure about my partner paying and when she does i don't feel as much of a man, it doesn't make us angry or upset it just hurts our pride so you haven't blown your chances with him and to change what has happened ring him up and talked about anything then during your talk say something like "so when are you going to take me out to dinner" but make it sound like your joking, he shouldn't take offence to it but in a couple of weeks he will ring you with dinner plans
give him time though and he will come around and it wont bother him if you pay
2006-12-12 10:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok because we all have a job for a reason. and if u d8 him he'll pay sometimes too. everyone always covers everyone it's like gambling no-1 ever comes that much more on top
2006-12-12 10:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by 2004 draft pick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that he still likes you. i think he feels like that is a sign that you guys are in a friendship and not close to dating. hey if you like him you better sieze the moment and ask him out before something happens. ask him before its too late. you won't have anything to regret if you gave it your best shot. oh, and don't pay again
2006-12-12 10:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by billywxyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bit embarrassing, cause you want to make the girl feel special by buying her all kinds of stuff, and you feel like you are'nt being the boyfriend you should be by letting her pay
2006-12-12 10:33:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋