When my fiance and I get married in Feb, he is gonna put his name on my sons birth certificate (which my sons biofather didnt do and probably for the best since he is now a crack head and a horrible person). At that time we are gonna change my sons name to his laat name. My question is, I (for reasons I havent figured out yet) gave him his biofathers name for his middle name. I was thinking of changing his middle name to James (which is my moms maiden name - she passed away 5 years ago). My son is 19 months old and wont know the difference but everthing (his baby book and memory box) have Caden Michael on it. Do you think I should just leave it as Michael or change it?
2006-12-12 10:24:28 · 7 answers · asked by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Why not add whatever names you want to his name now?
Caden Michael James NewLastName.
When he grows up and can ask about all of his names, you'll have the opportunity to tell him all about family he never got to know.
2006-12-12 10:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off you are gonna have to do a step-parent adoption and that runs anywhere from 800-1000 dollars. During that time your lawyer will ask you if you want to change anything other than the last name.The reason you will have to do a step-parent adoption is because the man that wants to give your child his last name isn't the bio father.And then it may take time because your lawyer will have to notify the bio father and let him know that his child is being up for adoption.Then he will have to say yes or no.If he says no then you will be in court for many many months.
The reason I know this is because my sons bio father was a butthead as well,and when I remarried my husband wanted to give him our last name.Good luck too you..hope this helps.
2006-12-12 11:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by April B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Michael is a very common name. I would leave it alone. It is a nice name although my ex husbands name is that too and he is a jerk.....lol. But it will confuse your son later as to why you changed it. If you wanted to add James it isn't a bad idea.
2006-12-12 10:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you change it you will have to explain it but not until he is old enough to notice. If you are unhappy with the name then change it - it's just the middle and you can just tell him you decided since "Daddy" was changing his name anyway you decided to honor your mother by changing his middle one at the same time. It really isn't a big deal as long as you are happy with the name you give him. Good Luck!
2006-12-12 10:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave it as Michael but change his last name but remember: thats entirely up to you and your fiance.
2006-12-12 10:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it as Michael no one will know that was his biodad's name.
2006-12-12 10:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by Candice S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it. What if the biological dad reappears and does things positive for your son.
2006-12-12 12:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Allison Y 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋