I am a 25 year old single mother of one and I have been married since I was 18. For the last month or so I have been parting with my friends about once to twice a week and I have never been unable or unwilling to care for my daughter when she comes home the next day. My father allways cares for her overnight when I do go out. I have been filling like a bad mother and I decided not to go out anymore....should I fill bad or unfit?
2006-12-12 10:18:17 · 18 answers · asked by stephanie c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
no you should not feel bad, you need time for yourself to recharge, you are only going out 1 or 2 times a week and its at night when she would be asleep anyway, you are not affected the next day and unable to take care of her so i wouldn't feel guilty if i were you. If you didn't take the time to recharge then you would be a a bad mother because you probably wouldn't cope.
2006-12-12 10:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I am just curious, how can you be a single married mother?? Either you are single or married. There's nothing wrong with going out but if you are getting plastered, there's the chance that you could get arrested for DUI or public drunk or whatever. It's OK to go out and have some fun, but you have to remember that you have a little one that you have to return to. She needs you to return home to her (sober) and take care of her. You have to have some time to yourself just make sure that you are being responsible at the same time. (Look into the spell check feature)
2006-12-12 10:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not really sure how to answer this question. i myself am a single mother but with two small children and i am 24. i do go out and "party" after work when my children are with my mother asleep. now my mom has them while i am working, so it is just a continuation of my work schuedule. now i don't drink or smoke or do anything of that nature, so i don't really feel "bad" or "unfit" as a parent. maybe if you feel that way you should only go out once or twice a month. but having time to yourself should make you feel unfit or bad.
2006-12-12 10:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel bad, everyone needs time to themselves, its very hard being a single mother and making sure you get some time for yourself is important. As long as your daughter is looked after by her grandfather and is safe there is no harm. Once a week is ok.
2006-12-12 19:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how can you be a single, married mother? You're either single or married. Going out once in a while isn't harmful. You DO however, need to make sure you're not over doing it. If you were to say...be pulled over and arrested for DUI, it would be devastating to your daughter. Just be careful and when you're out...remember, you are someone's mother.
2006-12-12 10:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first of all your a mother not dead. you have a life you just have a daughter to share it with. pick one night a week or every other week that you go out with your friends as long as the person you are leaving your daughter with is trustworthy. my advice is make sure before you go out that YOU are the one that puts her to bed and leave after she goes to bed, then be there in the morning when she gets up that way you really have nothing to feel bad about and she won't feel like you are just dumping her off somewhere
2006-12-12 18:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by littlemamma1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your place, and I know that it is essential to get away from your child regularly, especially when you are on your own. To me, the quality of time spent with a little one is more important than always being available. Do not feel guilty for needing some adult space, especially when your child is well looked after. Good luck.
2006-12-12 10:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids can be a hell of a drain on parents, even if your the best around. there is nothing rong, with dad watching for a day or so.
just do not make going out a frequent habbit. What you are trying to escape once in a while, ooothers later on, will want to escape also
2006-12-12 10:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by duster 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww hun course you shouldnt feel bad. being a single mum must be hard work heck its hard work with both parents.
you need time to enjoy being single again instead of feeling lonely.
i'm sure your daughter loves staying with your father.
2006-12-12 10:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by babytots 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question makes no sense, how can you be a single mother and be married? Do you mean Partying or parting? Delete this question and try again.
2006-12-12 10:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋