you do love the person, but find it impossible to make them relax and be truely happy, he so insercure and stresses out all the time, i dont think theres any need for it, he says he does trust me,hes been hurt in the past and terrified im going to leave him, i dont want to.........but there only so much you can take........i get questioned over everything!!!
2006-12-12 10:17:46 · 27 answers · asked by Supergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone makes you unhappy more than they make you happy its time to go..follow your heart.
2006-12-12 10:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fact that you are asking that question means that you are wanting to move on.
I was with a guy who did that to me and I got to the stage where I could not take anymore and ended it. He went a bit funny on me tho, calling all the time... so if that happens to you best thing to do is completely ignore him. If he thinks he has even a little chance then he will be on your case all the time.
But you dont sound happy and you should never sacrifice your happiness for anyone or anything.
Do what's best for you.
2006-12-13 06:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by betty Boop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is ur really fit lookin and have loadsa mates and he's an emo type. Your popularity and outgoing personality makes him jealous of people who pay any interest. Therefore i would assume you dont go out together as much as he'd like (to show you off) and so he suspects your flirtin with other guys behind his back.
To actually go out with him knowing he will be possessive and you will feel like you couldnt look any guy in the eye.... will make you begin to hate him.
Sounds to me like what you thought you had is over....for some bubbly girls, stability isn't enough. Call it quits before things turn sour. A winner knows when to quit. Stay safe babe, he'll get over it...pity his next conquest.
2006-12-12 18:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A releationship is a two way thing, you can't stay with someone just because of how they would take the breakup.
If it's not working and you are not getting anything from the relationship, try your best to confront the issues that are causing the heartbreak, but if all else fails, maybe it's just run it's course.
2006-12-12 18:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Alan B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is an insecure man that wont let go of old baggage.He needs to know he is in the here and now with you not with everyone in the world he feels pissed in his corn flakes.If i was you I would be straight with him and tell him he needs to stop acting like a cry baby and handle himself and stop mistrusting you or you will be gone.Why? because even if it does turn out you leave him,by saying the truth its one time in his life he will have to face that it was his doing and not supposedly someone Else's. Good luck, its not easy but what in life not spoken through truth is?
2006-12-12 18:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should talk to him and make him feel less insecure and tell him to trust you.Tell him if it carries on you feel like hes pushing you away.Just because hes over protective it doesnt mean you have to end the relationship.However if it gets to much tell him you need a break but make it clear it doesnt mean break up talk everyday on the phone have your own space to learn to appreciate each other more rather than get on each others nerves.
2006-12-12 18:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jacks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that the questioning is annoying. if he truly trusted you, then there would be no questioning. have you hurt him?? or has he been hurt so much and often that he has developed a complex?? relationships work with some compromises. tell him to lighten the inquisition and perhaps you'll stay. if not...then put your foot down and get out. love hurts sometimes.
2006-12-12 18:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id tell him that there is so much you can take... and that you dont want to leave him but you cant take much more.. of it and that things have gotta get better or else you are done...
that usually works for me..
lots of luck,
happy holidays
2006-12-12 18:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that ive been on his side of the fence, sometimes it is hard to deal with our insecurities, but there are little things you can do to help, one is just talking to him and constant reassurance. That always helped me, until finally i was over my problem, but if its not helping after a while, maybe there is something deeper that he needs to confront. maybe seeing a counselor would be best on his part
2006-12-12 18:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Victor M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question...better to end it sooner rather than later, i know this only too well. Depends maybe you should talk about it but it is your life. You make a decision based on how you feel.
2006-12-12 18:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by alec c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that depends on how long he's been acting like that. And if you have talked to him about his behavior and he hasn't changed or put any effort in to ratifying the situation then I would say it's time to move on now!
2006-12-12 18:24:01 · answer #11 · answered by mnmpeices 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋