do alot of guys do this?, im finding it hard being in this relationship,he says its just the way he is, the argument could be resolved as soon as its started as its usually over petty things that one of us has picked up wrongly, but instead he just chooses to ignore me for days........i think its immature,but i do love him, but dont know how to handle this situation, i feel he playing mind games with me, to hurt me as if to hurt me back for upsetting him, and it makes me feel down, cause if you love someone you wouldnt hurt them would you? he says he loves me, but i think it easy to say, actions speak louder......i have tried talking to him!!!
2006-12-12 10:09:25 · 13 answers · asked by Supergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, guys mostly do this.. the best way to avoid it is to avoid the arguements.. u cant really change them...if u can, just ignore the issue that annoys u, u have to weigh it against days of being ignored and momentary anger/hurt.
2006-12-12 10:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Naveen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sort of fight did you have? There are people who have a hard time dealing with anger or dismay especially if the ones who made them feel this way are the ones they love or close to them.So, they tend to step back and gets space for them to allow themselves to think about what happened and try to cool down. And when they have think about it, they will see that problems clearly.And they will be the one to approach you.Well..that is if your bf is like that..BUT if he is like as if your always running after him you may want to consider letting him go and let do what he pleases. That would mean, he does not care how you feel.You deserve a better man. Hope this helps. God bless
2006-12-12 13:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say 'how many guys behave like this,' but I used to.
Years ago I went through a very difficult time in trying to face that kind of behaviour in my self. It was almost physically painful to not behave like that when there were conflicts with my wife.
I'd learned this from my father ~ which was the normal way of behaving, wasn't it! I knew no different.
It is, in some ways, very childish, or child-like, and the reasons for it are likely rooted in his childhood. It would help him and so too yourself, if you could get him to talk about his childhood and growing up - conflicts in family's and so on.
Trying to understand, resolve and / or re-educate him in light of anything you learn is complex and likely not for you to do anyway. But it might help you personally to get a greater sense of him ...and then maybe to find some professional help for this.
As I said, I know how 'difficult' it was for me to change my behaviour, but oh so worth it.
I wish you good luck.
Sash.
2006-12-12 11:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not you its just him my ex use to be the same way i always found it easier to just deal with it enjoy the quitness and talk to ur friends laugh about it.. eventually he will get tired of ignoring you that he will stop dont ask him to do a thing make what you want for dinner, do the cleaning when you want, just dont ask him a thing.. and he will learn that you are not putting up with it
lots of luck and happy holidays
2006-12-12 10:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...he might have trouble expressing what is wrong. that is an issue. i would rather avoid my fiance when we have fights. i sometimes leave the room and go for a walk. perhaps you two need to find a way for him to express his feelings and his side that he wants to say to you. try through e-mail on instant messaging. that's how my fiance used to argue (at least the beginning of the argument...later we would talk about it). but i am a firm believer in "don't go to sleep angry at each other".
2006-12-12 10:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oooo chick ive been there.be warned leave him a moddy guy who makes you feel less of a person will just bring you down.we all know lifes to short to be unhappy,
take my advice and get out while you can.
head games and silence r mentally abusing and you will become controlled,and not believe in yourself.
you were born to be happy not miserable babe.the silence for days nearly drove me nuts.pluck up the courage and believe and know you need better treatment.life is to live not to be made unhappy. good luck chick x
2006-12-12 10:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They intend to do that, hoping that you will forget about it in a few days. Then the act like nothing happened.
2006-12-12 10:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a spending spree doll yourself up and go out..Ignore him for a while if he wants you he'll come after you
2006-12-12 10:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel.
not much you can do about it- i think alot of guys are like this.....
just play him at his own game.
he will come round eventually.... they normally do, dont they?
im sure things will work themselves out
good luck
2006-12-12 10:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been there and it a case of ya bf needs space to think .we react differently and if u ask i bet he will tell u he needed time to think.
2006-12-12 13:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by shaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋