im a15 year old girl will be16 in5 months me and this22 year old guy have been friends for sometime now we chat about everything and have a laff the other day i pluck up the currage to tell him i fancie him and understand the age between us but went on saying we only live once please give it ago(thats the long storie short) anyways hes told me he does fancie me and he would love to go on dates and see how things go take it slow. but the only thing stopping him is my age he told me if i was 16 it wouldent matter he would go for it straight away. i ask why my age bother him that if we like eachother then it wont stop us.
he says hes worried people would call him perv as he told his best mate he has feelings for me and he called him a perv straight away, the thing is this guy dont actuly look22 and im taller than him bless him lol. we seem to get on so well it be a shame to waste this opitunity just coz of some narrow minded people out there.what should i do would it b wrong 4 us to D8
2006-12-12 09:44:49 · 33 answers · asked by chick_lover_hot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i did ask him why he wants to wait till im 16 he said as its the law and dont want to get in to any truble.
also he did actuly say to me i would like you to explain this to your mum and we go from there.
but in someways im worried to tell my mum coz i dont want to lose friendship with him. and my mum might get the wrong end of the stick and stop me chatting to him then it be like romeo n juliet lol.
oh im from the uk.
2006-12-12 10:02:22 · update #1
Why does everybody on here assume that you are going to jump straight into bed with him?
He sounds like a nice sensible young man to me.
In the past you have only talked to each other and, the way I understand it, he hasn't even asked you for a date because he is concerned about your age. When you told him that you fancy him he said that you should discuss it with your Mum,
Come on, people, this is not the attitude of a perv, he is a nice sensible young man who is concerned that he may appear to be taking advantage of this equally sensible young lady.
Talk to your Mum, tell her how you feel, ask if you can bring him home to meet her and also assure her that you won't date him without her permission.
My guess is, that if Mum will agree to meet him, she may see the same qualities in this young man as you do.
I wish you both lots of luck and if it doesn't work out with your Mum, then you can still both wait for each other, as has already been suggested.
2006-12-12 10:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The age GAP is not important, 16 and 22 is nothing of a gap.
However he can get into trouble because you are underage, as you know.
If he is willing to wait until you r 16 before sleeping with you,then you will both know if you really want to be together for real.
The age gap is fine, but you are 'jailbate', if he treats you properly and respects your age then fine.
When you do get together make sure you DO use precautions if you have sex, and dont rush into it. Being single with a baby aged 16 is VERY VERY HARD!!
He may have slept with several women.
They say if you sleep with a guy/girl you 'sleep' with everyone he/she has slept with too. He could have hepititis or HIV, pubic lice etc too.
One or two other things could be a problem too, your family, & his family, and others' opinions will get in the way.
The fact that he can go into a pub and go to nightclubs and drive a car and do other things you cant will hinder everything too. You cant see what he's up to when he goes out late!
Also he can go abroad without asking permission and do what he wants etc.
2006-12-12 09:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by My name's MUD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age shouldn't matter all but in some cases it does especially if you are under 16 yrs old.
for instance the difference between 15 and 21 is different than between 30 and 36. they may still be the same difference but its age of maturity is grander. unfortunately he is classed has an adult or has being mature and I'm sure your parents would have concerns.
At the end off the day if you like each other give it ago and see what happens.
i hope thing work out for you X
2006-12-12 10:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think so, as when I was 20 I was going out with a 15-year-old girl. My mates did give me loads of grief about it though - I just had to put up with it. The only thing is, you have to make sure people don't think you're breaking the law. It was easier for me because in the UK the legal age you have to be to have sex is 16 - I don't know where you're from or what the laws are, but if you come from somewhere where it's 18 or above you're going to encounter all sorts of opposition, as that's all most people will be thinking of.
Anyway - I don't think it's wrong in the slightest as long as you're sensible enough not to be taken advantage of. Good luck to ya!
2006-12-12 09:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Swordy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the law will be changed soon on this one because its ridiculous you are deliberating on what to do on something which is only a matter of months.(I have written to the government/home office in the UK with my views on this)
I have looked at a number of subjects on here to do with paedophilia and am incensed at the bias of people being against young Adults having a relationship with someone under the age of 16. I am in a similar position to your male friend as I look around 20/21 (despite being older) and I'm sometimes attracted to girls in the 12-16 age range - I would consider having a relationship if a girl consented/fancied me. Its time we got with the times and lowered the age of consent to 12 or 13 - its not at all unusual for girls of this age to want an older boyfriend because they mature quicker than boys. Let me get this straight I am totally against the Ian huntley's of this world and I wouldnt condone dirty old men preying on youngsters but in most cases if this were to happen the girl would not consent so it would be rape. (I do think we need better sex education though to stop unwanted pregnancies - however I think you will find its the under 16 year old boys are who are sleeping with underage girls who are the problem with regards to this not older more responsible Adults)
Sorry to have a bit of a rant with regards to your problem(Ive allowed myself to get sidetracked) but I have been denied my opinion on other posts because the questions seem to be closed far too early(a criticism of these questions) as I have only just joined. My advice is ignore the sexual prudes on here, why worry about the age difference and go ahead with the relationship as long as it feels right.
2006-12-12 11:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie3200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 and 15 is a huge age gap in development terms, much larger than the gap will be between you when you are 29 and 22.
I really would urge you to talk to your parents about this, as he seems to be quite responsible about your age. Ask your parents if you can introduce him and then if they agree then maybe you can start to see him in suitable circumstances. If he really is interested in you, then he will be happy to accept any limits that make your parents feel comfortable. You have a long, long time ahead of you so don't rush anything, I was 33 before I met my perfect partner and that was after a lot of mistakes.
2006-12-12 09:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by MarkEverest 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be more than worrying about people thinking he's a perv. In some states a 22 year old could be prosecuted for a sex crime for dating a 15 year old.
2006-12-12 10:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by wyldfyr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue of perception changes for people as they mature. At 15-16 you are subject to change your perception of life alot by the time you become 22; since he is a man, this maturity may not truly come for a few more years, (I don't care how much he fronts). Try to put yourself in his place. Would you want to date a shorter BOY who is 6 to 7 years YOUNGER than you?
2006-12-12 09:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age has nothin to do with it
you are too young and he is too old
i know you dont see this now but he likes young girls he is what you call a CHILD MOLESTER and he could go to jail for a very long time and he could be registerd as a SEX OFFENDER
i was 13 and i looked 18 i got pregnant at 14 he was i found out later 27 he never took care of me or his child my daugher is now 20 and dont know who her father is the road you are going on is too soon but this is why your age bother him you are going to get the man locked up in the penetary for atleast 15 to 20 years NOT A GOOD IDEA AT LEAST WAIT UNTIL YOUR 17 you will be legal then and no one can stop you then
2006-12-12 09:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by slpry L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might later regret having made the decision to date this 22 yr old. Later you will realize that you two may not have many things in common as you thought you did. I dont mean to sound like your mother, but I have been in this situation before. He may be way more mature than you, being 22. But if you feel this advise is stupid, and you date him anyway. be careful
2006-12-12 09:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋