My fiancee wants to spend Christmas with his family bc he hasn't seen them in a year, and I want to spend Christmas with my family because we are moving soon. This is our first Christmas together, and I don't want to be apart. We are moving in May to live where his family lives. I feel like this is my last Christmas at home, and our first Christmas together, so we should stay here. I have no problem with him going to see his family before or after Christmas, I just want him here for that day, but he doesn't want to dissapoint them by not being there ON Christmas. I feel like I am leaving my family so he can have the rest of his life with his, and he should give me this one day. He thinks I'm being selfish bc he hasn't seen them in so long, and he's staying here until May, not January like his family thought. I want us both to be happy! Please help me! Any suggestions you have would be great!
2006-12-12 09:42:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Please understand, it's not that I don't want him to see his family, it's that I want to spend my last Christmas at home with my family, and I want him to be a part of it bc it is such a special time to me. For the next 4 years or so we probably won't have the money to come back and see my family, so this is my last Christmas with them for 4 years, and he gets the next 4 Christmas' with his family.
2006-12-12 10:02:28 · update #1
The way we solve this question is my in laws celebrate Christmas one year on Christmas Eve, then we travel via plane 1200 miles to be with my family late Christmas Day. We do enjoy two Christmas dinners. The next year we reverse the procedure.
2006-12-12 09:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by M B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him spend Christmas with his family you can spend it with yours & enjoy new years together. I'd do your own Christmas with just each other when he gets back, make it special just for the two of you. He obviously is desperate to see his family, and it sounds like you get to see yours everyday. Switch places & imagine if you haven't seen your family in a year how you'd feel. You can even say, 'Alright go spend Christmas with your family, have a great time, but next year we're flying up to spend it with mine!'
2006-12-12 17:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Little Nell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being old enough to be engaged means having the ability to make decisions. If this is your first Christmas together, that would mean you've been together less than a year? He should go be with his own family and you stay with yours. Aren't you going to be with him the rest of your life? So why are you so adamant about having him for 1 day?
2006-12-12 17:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you spend Christmas with one of the families and New Year's with the other. That is what my husband and I used to do. But if that is impossible, you should go to your "husband's" family. A year is a long time for a "son" to be away from his "mother". Always remember, that the man you fell in love with, the man that you married, will have children with, sleep with every night, supports you, loves you, well darlin! He married you, and "statistics" show, that men marry "woman" who closely resemble/qualities of their "mother". Feel good about that, and go and have Christmas with your husband's family, you will be glad that you did. Now go give him a big hug and tell him you Changed your mind, and that he was right! It will call come back to you and it will be terrific. Merry Christmas..
2006-12-12 17:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not invite some of his family to spend Christmas with yours? Or have your key family members spend it with his (would give them a chance to see the area you'll be calling "home" soon, too). Hope that helps!
2006-12-12 17:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by rhiannon2797 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to reach a compromise...maybe spend half the day with your parents and the other half with his...I gotta tell you though...I think you should spend it with his family since he hasn't seen them in a YEAR! If you guys can't agree..then just spend it apart. Just do his family this year and your family next year...You are going to have to compromise no matter what when it comes to the holidays and youa re in a relationship...just wait til you get married...what do you do then??
2006-12-12 17:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I will be able to say to you that the love is a thing crowned for those which really know it, me I lived in France and now I live in Morocco my girlfriend live in Canada and despite everything Ca one remains just so that one day will be together and it one will pass Christmas together, in any case you will make a good choice for your life because it is important for you both! happy Christmas and good continuation with your man..
2006-12-12 17:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by vincent M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the one day really worth it if you are going to have another 50 christmas' with him? think about it. is it really worth the chance of messing it all up because you don't want him to see his family.
2006-12-12 17:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by billywxyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend this year with your family and the next 2 major holidays with his. problem solved.
2006-12-12 17:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋