Hello, back last month I had decided to take a trip home. I had planned this trip for about a month & 1/2 I mentioned this too my sister. Later my sister informed me some friends of hers were having a Anniversary party and she was thinking of going. I postponed leaving so she and I could go home together.
I asked my sister several times what were her plans, she kept putting me off with excuses ie: I can't leave until my son gets out of school, I can't do this, I can't do that etc, she finally said she not leave until friday, I was leaving Thursday as it takes 8 hours to travel to Ohio. On the day I was leaving I called her, and she asked me to wait, she was at work and could possiblely leave at 12:00, she had not packed she had not rented a car..nothing.
I was very frustrated and finally left and yes I left my sister at home. Should I now aplogize, for she accused me of "leaving" her and that this was "her" trip?
Remember, I was already going home.
2006-12-12 09:40:11 · 8 answers · asked by Barbie doll lover 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way she had some of the family members call and literally "cus" me out over this. She did not take any responsibility in this at all.
2006-12-12 09:41:47 · update #1
The seems story is pretty complicated but the decision point seems to the discussion that you had over the day that you would leave. If you told her in advance that you were definitely leaving Thursday and that you would call her on that day - regardless of whatever else she told you - then you would be logically 'clear'. If you didn't have a definite understanding between the two of you concerning the definite day that you were leaving then, if you want to see it this way, some of the blame attaches to you.
Either way, I see several issues. First, your sister's life may be somewhat confused. Second, her relationship with you - and probably your family - is somewhat 'messed'.
I would apologize for the confusion, state what your understanding of the situation was, and then ask her if she wants to continue the relationship with you. If she does, take her out for lunch- find out how her life is really going. Then let the relatives know in an e-mail that the two of you had lunch together. That will let them know to bow out of the situation.
2006-12-14 14:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by ethicsprof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not apologize to her because she was the one in the wrong..... She has plenty of time to be prepared for this trip.... her having the family cuss you was a childish immature move on her part.......
i would just leave her alone for awhile an let things settle... She will move on and things will blow over before you know it and maybe you guys can go home together some other time.
2006-12-12 17:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation I wouldn't be apologizing. Your sister actually is at your mercy, in my opinion, because you changed your plans for her. I would of done the same thing, because honestly if you stayed waiting around for her who knows when you would of actually left. She was very inconsiderate of your time and very immature to have your family call to curse you out. If anything, I would call to tell her that I apologize for the way she feels but would not apologize for my actions.
2006-12-12 17:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no...I would, personally, apologize but say "I needed to leave, I could not wait any longer for you because I had already put this trip off, I'm sorry, but next time be ready so we can go" I would also tell her it hurt your feelings for having the family gang up on you!
2006-12-12 17:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is at fault for being inconsiderate and lazy in her plans. You've done the same thing I've done with my sister... I'm leaving at THIS TIME, with you our without you. You're not in the wrong, she had plenty of time to accommodate your plans, especially since you were willing to adjust your plans to sinc with hers.
2006-12-12 17:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had more than enough time to prepare for that trip. Don't let her get to you, she isn't the innocent victim that she wants to make herself out to be. She should apologize to you for making things so difficult.
2006-12-12 17:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should feel bad about it at all you you were trying to leave for the longest time she knew that she was just slacking
2006-12-12 17:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like she owes you the apology and that you may be related to my family LOL
2006-12-12 17:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋