my ex broke up with me recently about 3 weeks ago stating that he doesnt have time for a relationship. we have been on & off for the last 2years everytime he states that he doesnt have time for a relationship and that he has to many other things. he always ends up calling and we talk & then we will start hanging out again and end up back together. what does this really mean he doesnt have time for a relationship? should i just forget about him and move on or should i give him his time again & wait for him to come back to me again?
2006-12-12 09:32:05 · 24 answers · asked by x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What this guy is really telling you is "I don't know what I want." It sounds like he likes you, but when you start getting too close he is freaking out and bailing. Then he decides he misses you and calls you up again. Honestly, he will not commit to you unless something changes his perspective on things. Go ahead and start dating other people. You may find someone else who is just as good a fit, and ready to get on with things. If you keep lettting him yo-yo, you are likely to waste years of your life on this. I bet its hard, and rest assured, he will stay on your mind for a while. Eventually you'll start getting over him. Also, if he tries to make a comeback while you have a pretty good prospect, don't blow off the new person. I think if you open yourself to other options, you will be suprised at who is out there. Happy dating.
2006-12-12 09:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by White and Nerdy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ! Move on, girl I went through that for 3 years. If I could make you take any advice it would be to truly move on. Trust me it will never work and when he finds someone else in your "break time" it will break your heart. Just cut the strings and wrap it up. Save it for the right person who will never want to let you go. The person that will stick with you through thick in thin. The one who treasures you. I know I did and it all worked out. I am getting married next year to my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years.
2006-12-12 09:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Nuts? Dump this guy and quit wasting your time. He is obviously a "cad", and you are being "used"!. You keep taking him back because you think you know him and it is easier then starting a new relationship. Look its Christmas, great time to get on with YOUR life, get out there, go to all the parties, dress up, laugh and have a good time, but don't eat too much! LOL - I am serious, he doesn't love you he is using you... listen to your "gut", and Merry Christmas... and Happy New Year and New Life for you.
2006-12-12 09:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!
ur not going to stand there until he picks u up to b urs
so Move on!
If he really wants u then he would of told u a long time ago
trust me! HE IS LIEING he really does have time and if he didnt he would of not be calling u. Think deeper.
Move on remember to MOVE ON! DOnt wait for him.......
Their is so many guys that are waiting for u to burst and see them.
Dont waist time on that guy.
G00D luck!
2006-12-12 09:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by SGx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that above all, you shouldn`t be with him again.
If he does it again, ask him why he suddenly has time for a relationship when every time you`re actually together, he doesn`t have the time. It`s obvious that he knows you`ll always be there, and he uses it to his advantage. He doesn`t really care about you, but he knows that you really care about him. Don`t get back into the relationship; he`ll break up with you and claim lack of time again.
2006-12-12 09:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by SRAWRRR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with someone else. Don't show him that you are waiting for him. When a man says he doesn't have time for a relationship it usually means they want you as a friend and someone to talk to and hang out with.
2006-12-12 09:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
On thing I have learned in life is that men are stupid! It was actually a man who told me this when I first learned it was true!
Men "make" time for those things that are most important. So... that excuse is just an "excuse" Most of the time it means that they just don't want to be bothered right then. - Try giving him more space and time away from you. Try not to call him IF you can! Get a hobby away from him. If you truly love/like him , this could be one of the hardest challenges to do! But you have to do it - they need it, it's good for them like brussel spouts are good for us - lol.
2006-12-12 09:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by Cutie girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its probably time to move on and concentrate on you. If he's telling you that he doesn't have time to be a relationship then take it as that. Keep yourself busy and don't worry about him. He keeps coming back because you allow him too, and that's not fair to you. Stand up and show him that he can't have you only on his terms.
2006-12-12 09:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He means he doesn't want to be responsible for any feelings you might have, or committed to you in any way (no promises!), but if and when he gets free time, he doesn't mind your company. Why "wait" for someone who clearly has no real interest in being with you? Self respect+ moving on = better life.
2006-12-12 09:35:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie U Have To Move On
2006-12-12 09:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by kevanaciab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋