I have been with a man for 3 months. We are exclusive. We have tons in common. We have great conversation. We have great sex. The one problem is I just don't feel "IT"....I have warm feelings towards him and he is as sweet, lovable and loyal as I could ever ask for. He loves me dearly. Can this "spark" grow over time? I want to love him....I truly do.
2006-12-12 09:28:47 · 18 answers · asked by Genevieve 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is perfect, youboth get alone just fine. Is just that neither of you is wild, adventorous or crazy. You are both dull and this is why it feels like there is no spark.
To be honest sparks ussually only happen in crushes, affairs and forbidden loves. I am engaged to a girl whom never gave me any tummy butterflies or swept me off my feet or any fantasia crap like that. I have had sparks and crushes before her but with her it was very normal.
I am looking forward for a "normal and dull" rest of my life together with her.
2006-12-12 09:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have warm feelings for him, that is a little spark. What you are wanting is a roaring Forest Fire. Try something different, maybe spend some time away from each other for like a weekend or longer. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-12-12 09:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if it isn't there it isn't there. Just because you don't have the it factor it doesn't mean he can't be in your life some other way. He could end up being one of your best friends because of the great conversations you two can have, but you can't be with someone who doesn't make you feel like your on top of the world. One day you'll find someone and it'll just happen naturally.
2006-12-12 09:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by liz04ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could, but would you want it too? Wouldn't you want to be with someone, that you just feel a connection with at first, and both of you are on the same page? I know relationships take time, but how much time is too much? Think about it. While you are waiting for a spark to happen with this guy, you could be finding someone that it will happen instantly.
2006-12-12 09:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by tmmygrl210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't create a spark, it's either there or it's not. But if you truely care about him then ask yourself what kind of a spark are you really looking for and why. You have to remember movies dont equal real life.
2006-12-12 09:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by fansygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don`t think "sparks" are meant to be grown into. I mean, that doesn`t mean that just because you aren`t in love with him now that you won`t be in love with him at some point or anything, I just don`t think you can force it. If you ever love him, it`ll come naturally and in it`s own time. But if you really care about him, don`t worry about it so much.
2006-12-12 09:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by SRAWRRR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just scuff your feet on the carpet as you walk toward him.
You have a head and a heart, listen to both.
If you are holding on to something that you should let go of then nothing new can grow.
2006-12-12 09:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by H. Hornblower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i have learned it the hard way if you do not love some one and you know it then you also know the only reason why you stay in the relationship is for sex and or to keep him happy so ask yourself are you ready to put your life on hold to make him happy for a life time
2006-12-12 09:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by bjtm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get love by having oral sex, love is something that grows, with time, you have to have common goals, if a man needs sex for love you charge him for it, be smart, lessen to Dr. Lora
2006-12-12 09:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Aron F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, so let him go before you hurt him even more. Try to really think about why there's no "spark", and you'll realize that your body may be telling you something your mind wishes weren't true.
2006-12-12 09:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋