My parents keep going through my room and messing it all up when they search through my things. I have told them politely to stop but they just said that it is their right to do that. Its not like i have anything to hide from them, i would just like them to respect my privacy. What should i do to get them to stop?
2006-12-12 09:24:45 · 29 answers · asked by **Jul** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am punk/emo and i haven't ever done drugs or anything, they never go through my sisters stuff. Is it just because of the way i dress?
2006-12-12 09:34:12 · update #1
You should get one of those mouse traps and hide them in every drawer of your clothes so when they go to open it they get hit. Then if they ask you why you did it shott back and ask why did they go through your stuff and if they don't answer that question besides because or it doesn't matter and stuff like that then tell them you won't answer their question until they answer yours. And continue to do this mouse trap thing until they stop or give you an answer. Otherwise you should lock your door or get one of those portable alarms that don't go off unless you type in the right code. then when they open your door it goes off and if you are out of the house then they are gonna have an earache.
2006-12-12 09:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by K 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Put a lock on your door. They will probably remove it but other than that all I can suggest is go through their room and mess it up like they do yours. You say you have nothing to hide but there's some reason for why your parent's arent trusting you. Did something happen that they just haven't been able to get past or are they just paranoid? My mom went trough my room all the time when i was younger also. So i purposely planted things and crazy notes simply to freak her out, of course that plan always backfired but at least i gave her something to find. What they are doing is rude and disrespectful to you. Just don't give them any reason to continue doing it. Leave all of your notes and anything you don't want them snooping through at school in your locker. Good Luck to you and I hope they stop doing this. I know it sucks.
2006-12-12 09:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may be a honest person, not into drugs etc., however your parents have the right to go through your room if they feel drugs maybe in their home. You live under their roof and until you become of age and can support yourself, parents can do a search of your room.
Perhaps you should sit down and discuss your concerns about them messing up your room even go as far as to asking them what you have done to deserve them going through your room like that.
2006-12-12 09:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could resort to telling your parents that You are going to put a Lock on the Door. That you require your Privacy, that you are doing Nothing that they should be suspicious of. Remind them, that calling the "kettle black", can backfire! From the day that you entered "womanhood", you need your privacy. I have raised several "girls" and "boys", and I am quite sure if you ask your parents, they had their own rooms, or at least, privacy.If they have No Reason to suspect that you are into activities that are against their "beliefs", then put the lock on your door and keep the key with you. Start by putting a "big Hand" on the door that says "Stop! Enter at Own Risk" - you can take a photocopy of your own hand, and put it up on your bedroom door. Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-12 09:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
HAVE FUN with them. Crush some calcium tablets up in a small zip lock bag and make them look dumb. Find some articles on the Internet that talks about extreme behaviors. Oh buy a package of condoms to stash. Also leave several little notes in drawers etc. that say "I hope you found what you are looking for"
2006-12-12 09:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Earth Law 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What are they looking for? Have you done anything to give them reason to mistrust you?
Sit down with them and have a conversation. Remind them you've given them no reason to "suspect" you and ask them why they treat you as though you're guilty of something?
If you speak to them on an adult level they may step back and reconsider.
If that doesn't work then I'd plant things around the room for them to find. Make a game out of it. Don't let them get to you.
2006-12-12 09:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents have very right to go through your room until you are an adult. It's part of thier job in looking after you and making sure you're okay. BUT leaving it in a mess is a diferent story. Tell them to kindly leave it as they found it.
2006-12-12 09:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have nothing to HIde then I wouldn't worry about it. They are looking out for your well being. Are you a wierd kid? Dress emo? Punk? Have attitude? Regardless of weather you do drugs, a Conservative Parent might not understand your "look" and attribute it to drugs or alchohol.
2006-12-12 09:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell them that you dont deserve this that they havent found anything so to respect ur privacy or at least be considerate enough not to trash your room that your the one the that has to clean it and its not right and i would tell them to go into ur sisters room and go threw everything of hers and tell em they didnt find nothing in your room to get over it...
2006-12-12 09:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off are you giving them reason to look? If not then the only thing you can do is thank them for caring enough about u to search, but if they have questions about what u are doing the best thing is to ask, other wise it will hurt your relationship with them, not to mention the trust they will lose!
2006-12-12 09:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋