2006-12-12 09:15:42 · 13 answers · asked by SteveNY 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I want to thank everyone for the great advice. I'll take all of it to heart and try to be a great supportive friend. Its hard to decide which of your answers is the best but I think the best advice given was to act instead of talk. Thanks again everyone.
2006-12-16 01:31:28 · update #1
My teenage son has a life threatening cancer and he has three absolutely remarkable friends. I mention them because what they have given him is their total friendship and time. They have all gone on with their lives, one has traveled hundreds of miles across country, the other is in the airforce stationed in Turkey, and the last lives locally. What makes them special is the attention they give my son when they are home and even when they are away. They call him regularly, drop by if they can, give him their time, talk, joke, play games, go out for the night with him . . . most of all they treat him normally. He has other good friends as well, all of whom are now in college . . none of them forget him and when they are all together . . it warms your heart.
Be there for your friend . . whatever he wants to do . . do it . . also support him unconditionally . . talk, listen, and laugh together, but most of all treat him as normally as possible.
Peace to you. You will find a way.
2006-12-12 10:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Panda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your query makes the entire different questions I'm watching at look like a complete waste of time. If I have been her or him I could think just like the luckyist character on this planet. To have a buddy such as you that quite cares. Just exhibit her or him how a lot. I'm nearly sixty one and now not within the exceptional of wellbeing. Two years in the past I married my first spouse once more after being aside and now not seeing each and every different for over 30 years. I am now not religeous , however have little or no worry of death , due to the fact that I am going out the happiest I have ever been in my existence. Having a well buddy who cares is all that concerns. Good good fortune.
2016-09-03 17:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by adamek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of things you'd need if you were in the same situation and offer them. Don't just say, "if there's anything I can do to help..." do things. Bring dinner, walk the dog, drive the kids to school, help your friend get to the doctor's, do some grocery shopping, clean the house... send love notes, listen to emotions, fend off people who say dumb things like, "when my aunt had cancer she bla bla bla bla... it was horrible!" Find ways to take the chore out of every day living so the friend can devote energy to healing.
And take good care of yourself while you're doing this. Read about and understand "compassion fatigue". Do what you can but be realistic so you can help over the long haul. The holidays are coming, maybe you can help your friend with some online shopping.
2006-12-12 09:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there, be supportive and above all, be a good listener. A very good friend of mine died with Pancreatic Cancer and near the end, he wanted to talk, share and actually walked closer to the Lord. Many people go thru the stages from Denial, Anger, bargaining and finally acceptance.
A good friend will stay with them and help them thru the difficult road ahead. And from my experience, has made me a stronger person in my faith and beliefs.
Talk to your pastor or priest if you need some support. Being there is the key, and supporting them and their family emotionally will be the biggest help you can be.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 09:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for your friend. Make him laugh, cry with him, be silent with him, let him know you care. I just read a story about a local man and when he was in the hospital with a life threatening illness, someone had dropped off a journal. Doctors, nurses, visitors, family and friends all wrote something in the book about his day, his care, good wishes, bible verses, etc. I thought that was a great idea. Its something that your friend can read on the days he feels better and something family and friends can read now or later. It will be a cherished keepsake for all.
2006-12-12 09:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Squeegee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my name is Tammy yes you can help just be with your friend as long as your friend is still alive because once they're gone they're gone for good, trust me I lost my father due to lung cancer 13 years ago, I was with him up until he past away and every chance I had I was over visisting with him we went though some bad days and some good days but the most important thing was I was there with him so just be there for your friend. God bless you.
2006-12-12 12:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not helpless. There is something you can do. Let your friend know you are pulling for him or her by entering some sort of competition like a 5k run or a bike ride and do it in his or her honor. It will really lift their spirit. I should know. Someone did it for me.
2006-12-12 13:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her... really there isnt much else that you can do, but when people suffer from cancers, Research shows that a strong social support will enhance their chances of survival.
2006-12-12 09:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take Him/Her out to dinner, buy them something, go to a movie, try to get their mind off the disease. I once read that the mind can help cure a disease, so I would tell them to stay positive, even through the roughest of times.
2006-12-12 09:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Nick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dr. Obvious.
I survived breast cancer and what I appreciated most was all the little things like the friend who nursed me throught chemo. The neighbours who shovelled my driveway, and the friends and cousin who emailed me jokes. It isn't what you say- it is what you do that matters.
2006-12-12 10:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by shelley_gaudreau2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋