has anyone ever had to break up with their special someone in their life...im thinking about leavin my special guy and im hurting so much because he has put me through a lot ..how can i get over him
2006-12-12 09:10:15 · 17 answers · asked by gina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, and my best advice....Life goes on....Just put one foot in front of the other....And time will help you get over him.
Others have told me don't look back, but I think that's impossible.
Good luck and buy a bottle of pepto, it works.
2006-12-12 09:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and after quite a few years of being together. What helped me get past some pain was to focus on and to keep reminding myself why I had to do this. Also I had to keep my mind busy on any thing and everything else but him. Night was the toughest so I read a lot of self help books on break ups etc....I think the biggest thing that helped me was to refocus my love toward others who needed it and would except it like kids, friends, Family. Just remember to keep moving forward and the more you focus on other people and things the better off you will be in your healing process. Keeping your mind set on him will only keep you in limbo and hold you back from other happiness ahead of you.You will always have cherished memories to hold on to and a special place for him in your heart but right now focus on you getting past the pain and begin to heal.
2006-12-12 18:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to take the "band-aid approach". You know its going to hurt, so why not do it quickly so that you feel the pain all at once, then there after it isn't all that bad. If he's put you through alot, he probably isn't your "special someone" and although you'll still feel the pain, at least you'll be on your way to find your real "special somone" instead of being stuck in a relationship with who continually hurt you.
2006-12-12 17:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both need distance from one another. I don't exactly know what he put you through, but if it's hurting you enough to even think about leaving, then maybe you need to follow your head, and your heart. Time can heal the wounds, and give you both the chance to figure out if this is what you both want and need, and honestly, even though you may not feel it now, you may meet someone else special that will give you what you want and deserve, and won't make you feel as if you need time apart.
2006-12-12 17:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by tmmygrl210 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard thing to do. If you make a decision you have to stick by it. As time goes by it does get easier. If he has put you through hell just think of all the things he has done, the reasons you don't want to be with him. I read on here once an inspirational quote.
"No man is worth the tears and one that is wont make you cry"
2006-12-12 17:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he isnt that special if you want to break up with him.
go for it get rid of him and lose all contact with him. the longer you have any contact with him the longer it will take you to get over him.
ignore him if you see him anywhere.
get your friends around as often as possible.
dont go to places you know he is likely to be.
my best tip is to write down all the bad things he has ever said to you or done to you and how it made you feel at the time. read them everyday and each time you want to contact him.
it really works it helped me get over my ex.
good luck hun x
2006-12-12 17:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he put you through hardships and left some kind of emotional scarring, you shouldn't really have hard feelings about breaking it off with him. Best of luck!
2006-12-12 17:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes ur special someone then stay, if u cant stay then hes not ur special someone. Yes you may have deep feelings for him, but i doubt that if hes put u through so much, that hes right for u. U deserve better, so you need to really think about whether he is rigght for u. Just talk to friends and family about....and see wat they think.....follow ur heart..it knows best
2006-12-12 17:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by as 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find somethen to take up your spare time... make sure for the next few weeks that your schedule is slammed.... whether it be going out with friends... or just making plans to go to the movies... call up someone random that you havent talked to in a while and ask them if they wana hang out some night... and mark it in your schedule.. and go out and meet new people... youll be fine... find a fall back person if you have to.. lol
2006-12-12 17:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by firzout4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Draw a metaphorical line in the sand.
Step over it.
Move on.
Sounds hard, but you HAVE to take the first step, and it's ALWAYS painful.
The sooner you do, the better it will be.
2006-12-12 17:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋