A newborns biological father is a violent, racist, bigoted neo-nazi who spends his time going in and out of jail for a variety of crimes. He has threatened members of the mothers family to the point that they have a restraining order on him, and the mother isn't certain that he wouldn't harm or kill her. The mother and father broke up because the mother thought she was pregnant by another man.
Do you think it's ethically acceptable to lie to him about the paternity of the child, now that it is clear that he is indeed the father, in order to protect the child and the mother by keeping him out of their lives?
2006-12-12 09:06:03 · 10 answers · asked by steve d 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
if the father is truely how you say he is then no, i would just flat out end the guys life.
i believe that you can place a price on a persons life and the more worthless the person the less the i value and less i care if they die.
my value is 500 bucks (i dont like my self very much)
2006-12-12 09:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Now that it is clear he is indeed the father"?
That makes it sound like he KNOWS the kid's his son. If that's right, then NO, they should not lie. He could demand a paternity test (and in some states, a judge would order it even if he's not on the birth certificate) and that would prove him right. Then he would be even angrier over being lied to.
However, if I'm reading this wrong and he has NO IDEA he might be the father, then by all means lie to him and say a paternity test showed that someone else is. Just avoid answering any questions about who that person is.
The thing here is about protecting the child. If he might demand a paternity test, then they should not lie. That will just make him more angry and violent later. If he won't then go ahead. But be aware that it might come back to bite someone in the ***.
But you know, any sane judge presiding over a hearing in which those were the facts would strip that man of his parental rights so fast nobody could blink. I think that would be the most ethically acceptable option. If that's not possible, then the right choice is whichever protects the child more ... and as I said, that might NOT be lying; what the man knows has to be taken into account.
2006-12-12 09:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't - everybody, no matter their personality or outlook, deserves to know they have a child. If he is as bad as you say (and I believe he may be) then the courts will have no problem awarding full custody to the mother if he even tries to have contact and possibly even instilling a restraining order against him for both the mother and child.
Put yourself in to his position. Would you want to know you had a chld out there? I am in no way defending his life choices, but as a single (loving, kind, good) father who had to fight for months in court, including proving paternity, I feel everyone has the right to know and then make their own choices as to how it will change their life
2006-12-12 09:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would lie if it was me but think about what would happen if he found out. He could get rights to the child! Go the legal way, find out by a professional what needs to be done in order to get full custody.
2006-12-19 18:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its the best thing to do for the child to lie to him about the paternity. i don't think that a restraining order is the safest thing to do like someone suggested. a restraining order won't keep the mother safe from the father breaking in and stabbing her to death because she took his child away. i think its the safest thing for her to keep herself and her child as far away as possible and never look back
2006-12-12 09:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would do whatever I had to do to protect me and my child. If it means lying so be it. It is pretty obvious that he isn't going to respect the courts or anything. I say keep 'em safe. Do what needs to be done. Good luck
2006-12-12 09:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him...sounds like he could hurt her or try and get custody of the child. I would protect my child at any costs.
2006-12-12 10:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly wouldn't say that it was ethically right, but it has been done for far lesser reasons than that one.
2006-12-20 08:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by essencepleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my child was in danger, hell yeah I would lie.
2006-12-12 09:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Bleu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, never.
2006-12-12 21:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋