Since my boyfriend joined a band,i think he's been introduced more to the 'rock and roll' lifestyle because he's hanging about with older people.Don't get me wrong they are great people.But...a few weeks ago i found out my bf had been smoking,because his ex had given him cigarettes.I was raging because i hate it and my mum does it...and the doctors once found a shadow on her lung...i dont want the same happening to him.The week before he promised he wouldnt smoke but he did.So he told me he did it to look 'cool' even though he knew it was stupid and promised he never would again.Then at the weekend,he went to a party everyone was getting stoned at(all these older people),and when they offered him a joint he kept saying 'no katie(me)would kill me'.I feel like i look like an uptight idiot not letting him smoke.But i hate it...what can i do?He's 15.
2006-12-12 08:59:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's what you can do. Whenever he refuses to smoke, hold him tight and tell him that you're pleased that he's taking care of his body. When he sees that kind of reaction and the fact that you're concerned about him, he's probably going to think better of it from now on. Be persistent about it though. You want to give him the impression that you're more attracted to him when he doesn't smoke. Good luck!
2006-12-12 09:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SWEETHEART! Hold your horses!
15 is WAY to young to be worrying about this stuff.
If you feel like you are being the policeman, then forget him. He should respect you, and by going behind your back, or blaming you for him not smoking, is disrespectful and unacceptable.
You don't need to deal with that suff sweetie, no worries.
I know at 15 you want to look cool, but remind him that smoking both pot AND cigarettes is illegal at his age.
If he wants to live on the wild side, let him, but don't let yourself be dragged down by his stupidity. You seem smarter than that.
Take a good look at yourself and your relationship. Are you only together becasue you want the trappings of being "together" with someone? Think about it, I am sure you will make the right one.
2006-12-12 09:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by chistoso13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking to him without the "rage" tell him how much you care about him and that you don't thing you could continue to see him if he chooses to become or continue being a smoker also you might learn some facts about the negative effects of smoking pot, especially if he now has good grades because if he starts smoking pot his grades will surely suffer i guarantee it!!
Tom AL USA
2006-12-12 09:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by whizbang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with what you mate is doing (and you are under the age of 16) which I assume you are, then you shouldn't try to run his life. And plus he won't let you anyways. You will remind him of his parents or something. Being an x-smoker I know that the person is the one that has to stop on their own no one can make him or her stop. I think you are probably to good for that crowd anyways (don't you)
2006-12-12 09:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think he can legally smoke at that age if you live in America. Not sure where you live and what the laws are about it in any other country. But if it was my bf, I would make him choose, useless tar sticks or me. But if you really want to be with him, you should compromise with him.
2006-12-12 09:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smoking is a hard habit to quit so if he has even a slight problem it will be hard to quit but the only way he will quit is if he wants to not cuz you want him otherwise he will just do it behind your back. i know i am a smoker and my husband hates that i smoke. so all you can do is stand by him and incourage him to quit and if he fails then dont give him a hard time just support him
2006-12-12 09:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by C Sheets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you look like an uptight idiot. I think you look like a concerned and caring girlfriend. It sounds like you care about him more than his "so called friends" do. Keep it up. He is way to young to smoke.
2006-12-12 09:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cigaretes are bad for you they have noxious chemicals mixed in the tobacco. These same chemicals are lethal to the human body.
Smoke Cigars instead, no chemicals, just pure tobacco.
"It's like smoking 5 cigarettes at once!"
2006-12-12 09:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant tell him what to do all you can do is give him advice and be there for him he gonna do what he wants to do regardless of what anybody says so just give him advice that smoking is not good for him especially at his age
2006-12-12 09:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by wesv6589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop smokeing or your break up with him, thats what i did with my last boyfriend and he stoped of the batt after i told him what it could do and because my dad smokes
2006-12-12 09:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by strawberry_candles06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋