My boyfriend of three years just gave me a promise ring for my birthday. I was secretly choked. I thought it would be an engagment ring. I am 25 and he is 23 I feel like he should *&%! or get off the pot. But I cannot be mean to him because he was so happy to give it to me. How would you feel?
2006-12-12 08:58:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are a good thing. Have you guys talked about marriage before? Maybe he's not ready for marriage yet 23 is still young. Give him a little more time you'll be glad you did in the end.
2006-12-12 09:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I TOTALLY agree with you.
I am 23 (almost 24) and my bf is 25.
The only difference that I see between our situations is that my bf thinks, "Go BIG or go HOME." He and I have discussed it, and neither of us believe in the whole "promise ring" thing.
I mean, why bother with a promise ring? You are old enough to get married. Promise rings belong in high school.
Maybe he sensed that you were ready to leave if he didn't up the ante and move the relationship forward somehow.
I think you need to let him know your HONEST thoughts. It could hurt, but you can't live being mad about it while he thinks all is well. In this case bliss is not ignorance.
2006-12-12 09:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you. Can you keep a secret? Can you keep a promisse? Are you ever going to betray him? I mean, you have to first ask yourself all these questions. My Ex-fiance before we got engaged he bought me a promisse ring and i didnt accept it because if i do then i am going to feel like i have to tell him everything. Where ever i go, what ever i do and i didnt want to put myself into that kind of a position. My ex-fiance was pretty upset, but he understood. So maybe, if you are going to feel the same way as i did maybe you shouldnt accept it, it depends. What the promisse ring actually means to you?? Does the age different matter to you? Are you imberresed that he is younger then you? Do you want to marry him? Do you really love him? Maybe you should ask yourself these questions and if the answer is NO to all of them or most then maybe you shouldnt accept it. However, telling the thruth is not always easy, but it is always the best thing. At least you are being honest with him... it is much better then lying, I always perefer honesty, reither then lies.
And in the end, someone has to get hurt if the thruth is not being told.. so maybe is better for it to happen NOW while things are fresh reither then after.. coz maybe his next step might be engagement... and being engageded is simillar to promisse ring. He wants you to promisse him that you are always going to be his girl etc. etc. etc..
I do hope that you do understand what i am trying to say... :)
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-12 09:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a promise ring is another way to say shut up about getting married until i am in a place in my life to feel worthy to marry you. I would never accept a promise ring, because if you can't ask me to marry you after 3 years, I will holla at you. Why wait around when the one might be right around the corner. IF he truly wants to marry you he'll learn. you never know what you got til it's gone. i left me boyfriend of 3 years cause he wasn't ready and i was. And ended up falling in love with my best friend and marrying him and 2 years later, and are a perfect match and never realized it until the Lord put it right in our face. good luck.
2006-12-12 09:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by a_nurse2b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel happy because promise rings are like to not to lie they are good don't choked.
2006-12-12 09:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by desireamartinez2002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awww!! i think that is so sweet!! but at least he is thinking about spending the rest of his life with you because thats the whole purpose of the promise ring thingy. but if he doesn't get you the real thing soon do what you feel is right.
2006-12-12 09:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by felita2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he is trying to let you know that he is committed to you but not ready to settle down for whatever reason (i.e. maturity, money, education). You're lucky that he is thinking this through and not jumping in before he is ready but still thinking enough of you to show that you are the only one in his life.
2006-12-12 09:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm,yeah,id be pissed,but i guess thats a sign he aint ready 2 get engaged right now.Dont rush him cause if he really loves yo,he will realize this and make you his wife in no time,and if you love him,you'll wait no matter how long it takes.
2006-12-12 09:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by *Brooke* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is the sweetest thing and don't look at that as anything other.. he is 23 years old and not ready to tie the knot.. you should be grateful to have such a loving guy :) :) :)
2006-12-12 09:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should commit for sure
But if he isn't ready i am sure that he wont do it and you don't want him to if it isn't what he wants.
But if your ready maybe you should move on.
2006-12-12 09:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋