Hi my bf is really rough usually in the bedroom but he wants to try?

Question

a n a n al ***. he says he'll be gentle, but he does get carried away. whats it feel like is it very painful?

im a girl!

Answer 1

I asked my girlfriend if she was willing to try and she did. We read about it first, learning all the do's and don'ts, hygiene, and proper preparation and lube. Even though we took it slow, it was uncomfortable for her and we stopped. The whole episode has earned me so many points with her, it is amazing. It has really forged her trust with me because she knows that I will respect her wishes and not push her into anything that causes her discomfort. It really isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Pardon the pun.

Answer 2

try slightly scratching on the chest, or some smooth scratching on the balls. That'll stress him wild. No tooth on the penis although, that must be a tad uncomfortable, although experience free to scratch his aspects and his decrease back and rear for roughness. perhaps try biting his nipples too? that must be slightly too difficult, as they're smooth, yet some ought to discover it erotic. try it once, not too troublesome, to ensure how he likes it. average, only be smooth with the penis and balls, yet some thing is loose recreation.

Answer 3

if he is typically rough, then he may be gentle at first, but if you're not ready and worked in to it (over a period of time), he'll probably thrust in, wait a moment for you to adjust, then go as normal... this would most likely cause you pain and great discomfort to the point of not wanting it again...

start solo, with fingers and toys, and work yourself up to being able to take him faster, then, it's a surprise for him.

you probably won't like how he'll do it, it should probably take an hour or so for your comfort, but he probably wont.

Answer 4

Gentle is not the concern its a question of who is "making the moves"....I have been there with girlfriends before and as long as you go at her pace, and let her control you end up both enjoying the experience.....if he truly is a good guy he is EXPECTING this response from you especially if he has done it before

Answer 5

Anal sex can be very pleasurable for both parties IF that's what they both want. If you are willing to try it make sure you have a lot of lubrication, something like KY Personal Lubricant, and a safe word. This is a word you can say to let him know you want to stop. Make sure he understands that when you say this word penetration has to stop immediately. If he won't comply with the rules then no booty for him! :-] Good luck!

Answer 6

Hey my husbands the same way and he also wanted to try it so we did theres this really great lub at porn stores that puts your back side to sleep and you cant feel any thing at all so it doesn't hurt all you feel is the pleasure so if you up to doing it i suggest you go and buy it . Its like 4.99 per tube its called anal ease. Trust me it can be very pleasurable for both of you if done right.-

Answer 7

If you not comfortable with that in the bedroom tell your mate. You shouldn't do anything that will make you feel uneasy, just to please a man. If you decide you wants to try it with him make it clear that he have to be very gentle and take his time until it's in. Once you feel that the discomfort is to much to bare push him away and say it's enough.

Answer 8

I never understood why ANY straight guy would want to duke a girl up the butt when she HAS a vag?

Either he's secretly gay and he's in denial by pretending to be with a girl, or he must have some really terrible aim.

In any case I would break out the dildo and tell him "You first, luv."

Answer 9

I've never done it, but I understand it to be painful, even with proper lublicate. If he tends to get carried away he may hurn you seriously. Consider it and make him show you he can be gentle. first

Answer 10

I'm assuming that the first time would hurt. If you do do it then make sure you have some type of lube and protection.