do u think their is a purpose for every situation that occurs in the life of a christian? even if that situation is getting divorced.... i prayed was my prayers not strong enought to liberate my husband.... he has lied and cheated to many times and i can't take that anymore... i love THE LORD, i am his servant.... is it wrong of me to pursue a divorce?
2006-12-12 08:56:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is a purpose to everything when you are being lead by the Lord Jesus Christ. I realize that I do not know the extent of your situation, and I do not completely realize the hurt and pain that you are going through right now. I'm not a marriage counselor, and I would suggest to go talk to your pastor, but I also would say this: act as Jesus would. I know that I have sinned so many times, and given my heart to things other than Him. In His terms, I was adulterous. Not in the sexual sense, but in the sense that I gave my heart to things other than Him. And yet, He still loved me, and wanted me to return. He was patient with me. He didn't(praise God) say, "That's it, you're going to hell now", and abandon me. No, He stood by me, and waited for me to come to my senses. I praise God that, even though I have been adulterous, decietful, and so many other things. When Peter asked how many times one should forgive another, Jesus essentially said, "Just keep on forgiving". There is no limit as to how many times a person can mess up before I can just cut off connections. My advice to you is this: I know it's hard, but God is bigger. Show yourself to be a mirror of Christ to your husband. Show him your love, like God has shown you His. Don't pursue a divorce; if that must happen, then let him be the one that files. And remember this: prayers are always answered, even if it is not the answer we are expecting or want. If there is to be a divorce, then let your husband file it, not you. Stick with him, continue to walk in Christ, and call on Him when it is simply too hard. Don't give up; be a light. Pray that God's will be done, not yours.
Grace, peace, and blessings.
Psalm 31:24 NIV
Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the LORD.
Psalm 71:7 NLT
My life is an example to many,
because you have been my strength and protection.
2006-12-12 09:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by eefen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not just of Christians, there is a purpose or meaning in every situation for EVERYBODY!
Well, it's hard to say, since all I have is this little paragraph.
On the one hand I feel that divorce is every person's right.
On theother hand I'm getting a feeling that while you feel you have reached your limits, you may not have actually reached your limits and been broken the way that Jesus and YHVH want you to become broken so that they can more easily fix and remake you into a more proper vessel of God.
Imagine that Jesus has temporarily taken possession of your body, what would He-you do? Is having sex with this husband a paramount part of your existence? Can you live in your house with him as if you had divorced but without having divorced?
When it seems difficult have you gone on to see it there is a hard limit there, or if you can be broken in that way and get on with it?
It's not 'wrong', but it might not be best.
2006-12-12 17:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by raxivar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you're fighting free will. At best, God can encourage him to do the right thing. By His own law, he can't reach into your husbands brain and turn him into a perfect little drone.
Is it wrong to pursue divorce? A better question is " Where you every really married?".
Okay. Deep breath. That was a metaphor. What I meant was, did he or did he not stand before God and country swearing to Love, Honor, and Cherish you? It sounds to me that he isn't. He broke his promise to God and country. Or he never really meant it in the first place. On that logic, divorce is a legal technicality. But you, having free will, must make the choice yourself.
Best wishes.
2006-12-12 17:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is hard to forgive someone who is supposed to have your best interest at heart who hurts you over and over. Does your husband want your forgiveness? Is he willing to work to earn your trust again. It will take both if he isn't very committed then it wouldn't help anyway. I think that it would better to forgive but if you can't then it is OK as God understands and said that he would allow divorce for adultery. He is a jealous God after all. Maybe divorce of someone so faithless is sort of like when God turns over people to reprobate minds.
No matter what your decision is you'll make the best one on your knees in prayer with God's grace.
2006-12-12 17:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by bess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual immortality and adultery are one of the reasons listed in the Bible as a good reason to get a divorce. It sounds as if he cheated, and you forgave him, then he went and cheated again. You should have to put up with that, and I don't think that God says you have to. Pray, study your bible, and talk to your pastor or a Christian Therapist if you need to, then file for divorce if that is what you feel led to do. I'll pray that the Lord guides you in this matter.
2006-12-12 17:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cylon Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not ask you to continue forever in a life that would make you miserable. Do what you can to save your marriage. But sometimes things just have to end. And God understands that. Be joyful that your prayer and the fellowship you have with other Christians and your family will get you through the horrible times if you choose to end that part of your life.
2006-12-12 17:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Love Shepherd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that things/situations come into our life for certain reasons, most unknown to us, but by holding on to our faith in Christ we grow through them. As far as divorced is concerning that are a couple of spiritual reasons for a divorced. First, fornication, which goes deeper than sex without the benefit of marriage. Secondly, the Bible (Paul) details that if a believer, whether they be male or female, has a spouse who is a unbeliever, but the unbeliever chooses to stay, let them stay, home/children will be blessed because of the believer, But, it the unbeliever chooses to leave, let them go the child of is not bound in those types of situation. If you want to read those scriptures of yourself you can find them in 1st Corinthians 7:12-16
2006-12-12 17:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Ecclsiates says, there is a time to every purpose under the Heaven.
http://www.handlethetruth.net
2006-12-12 16:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by truth_handler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether it is stupid or not I do believe that "everything happen for a reason". open your eyes...your sense of awareness...willingness to accept...change and move on. just keep on praying for the best to come...just don't give up easily
2006-12-12 17:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sometimes its just humans being stupid..
2006-12-12 16:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋