Should I be this distroat about a girl that has recently dumped me. I am 18 and she is 16 and I really really like the girl. We went out for a week and then all of a sudden she has said that she wants to end this and hasn't really given me a proper answer as to why. When we saw each other today it was killing me inside and i put on a front of being happy and smileing and joking around but it was deep inside that was hurting me. My question is should I feel as badly as I do??? If so how long will it take to go???
2006-12-12 08:54:55 · 12 answers · asked by scott C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
'Should I really feel like this'
If I were to say 'No,' then you might say, 'Well, why do I then?'
Good question, and one that shoves my answer out the window and takes us back to square 1.
Back to the Original Question ~ which you have already answered for yourself and negated the actual asking of it
You feel it because you feel it, because it's there to be felt by you the owner.
Should you 'not be really feeling it,' then you wouldn't ~ be feeling it.
Ipso facto.
[ Ok, I've now read the rest of what you wrote ~ and my answer still stands. However, I really really really do appreciate what you describe ~ it, her behaviour hurts and badly so.
Best Advice! Avoid areas where she's likely to be. She knows some of what / how you feel, so leave her with that and try to get on with what you have to do.
Sorry, not what you want to hear, but i speak from the experience of having earned the tee-shirt and the right to wear it. ]
Best wish to you.
Sash.
2006-12-12 11:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may hurt and there is nothing wrong with that but you will get over it in time. Shes only 16 too and that is really young for someone to be mature about a relationship, dont et me wrong its not impossible but it is unlikely that she is ready to be in a serious relationship anyways the way you describe it it sounds like that. You need an older woman;) Good Luck and keep acting happy around her
2006-12-12 17:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by undercovernudist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exacally how you feel. Im the same problem again. Love will come and go. And maybe just guys are just not right for each other. you may think so, but she dose not. It may take a while to get over. my cousin after her boyfriend dumped her she wouldnt eat sleep or nothing. she couldnt sllep in her own room just because on her walla had pics of him. and she was so deprssed she couldnt even take them down. she kept vomiting everywhere. And thats when It gets outts control. Its natural to fell hurt like thta bceause you really love her. I fell the say way cause i just got dumped myself like that...
-Kim
2006-12-12 17:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry_candles06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, love can hurt sometimes,,,, its normal for you to be upset, and to be uncomfortable when your around her,,, it will pass,,, there is no set time limit,,,, probably in a few weeks or so,,, try to find other things to occupy your mind,,, but also think about the positives and negatives of the relationship,,,,, did perhaps you two rush too fast (common among young people),, you should go on a date with someone, then another date perhaps the next week, really get to know them, before you become a couple,,,,, it wont make the breaking up easier,,, but you wont be getting into these quick relationships that dont work out,,
2006-12-12 17:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for something else to make you happy because It happened to me twice, once it lasted 2 years and I set aside a year of college and the other one lasted about a year until I found someone else to have fun with. She brought light back into my life. Find someone you like hanging out with.
2006-12-12 16:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by DJ C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are hurting, but a week? Move on honey, she isn't worth it. Like the old saying, plenty more fish in the sea, or there is someone out there for everybody. You are young, enjoy it.
2006-12-12 16:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by chutney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt!!! if she dumped you than thats her problem. if it is realy hurting you be brave and ask her why she dumped you you never know it may be something you guys can work through together good luvk x
2006-12-12 16:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by francho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably end it cuz u 2 old 4 her and de hurtin part, u really need 2 move on sweety.
2006-12-12 16:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Babygurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still learning. It gets easier once you see that more will come along. It's normal. Just don't let it get you down.
There will be more. Seriously.
2006-12-12 16:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man... i am sorry to tell you but you do not need any more reason: her silence is the answer you are looking for
2006-12-12 16:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Guillermo G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋