Help...my 5 year old nephew felt me up while I was sleeping?

Question

He was grabbing my butt and tried unzipping my shirt to grab my boobs and when I got up he turned around really fast and acted like he was sleeping.....could he be getting molested or maybe was at one point? He's never acted like this before. Im really worried about him. He obviously must think its wrong if he tried pretending he was asleep after I got up.

Answer 1

Starting at about that age generally ,,,, children develope a curiosity about the opposite and or even same gender ,,,, It's only natural ,,,, Every one is born with fully developed and fully functional sexual organs ,,,, He might have seen something that initiated his curiosity but it doesn't necessarily mean it was because of some one else ,,,, Look at some of the commercials you see on television today ,,,, And yes I mean something as simple as an advertisement ,,,, Years ago allot of what you see in commercials or magazines or even the news paper today wouldn't have even been thought of ,,,, let alone aired or displayed for public viewing ,,,, Societies moral standards have deteriorated to what we have today and allot of what you see or what anyone can look at now can be a catalyst for starting a childs mind to working in this direction ,,,,, It's so common today and people are exposed to this sort of thing constantly that they don't give it a second thought when they do see it ,,,, They also don't bother to think about what this sort of thing is doing to the young or immature mine either ,,, I mean have you ever looked at the women's and girls section in a catalog today ,,,,? Something as simple as that can get a young mind to working ,,,, So exposure to this sort of thing is allot more common than a person realizes and people don't bother to give it a second thought as to just how this sort of thing can effect a little boy that has developed a normal curiosity for this sort of thing ,,,, To him it's brand new and very interesting ,,,,, As a result children will play and explore with each other ,,,, Because of this they will develop a habit of masturbation that will continue for the rest of their life ,,,, And any one who tries to say they don't practice that is telling lies ,,,, There's nothing wrong with masturbation ,,,, It's a part of a persons natural development ,,,, In some circles it's even thought of as a healthy activity ,,,,, What allot of people don't realize is that children are people too ,,,, The only difference is that they are just little people but they are people none the less ,,,,They have the same functional parts as adults ,,,, Any number of things might have initiated his curiosity ,,,, Nature is one of them ,,,, television another or a womens or girls clothing magazine or catalog or what ever ,,,, If you want to limit or stop the childs exposure to this sort of thing then you had better get rid of the television and all reading material including the daily news paper that advertises ,,,, So what your 5 year old nephew has exhibited isn't abnormal at all ,,,, he's curious ,,,, but yes this is something that you should discuss with his parents ,,,, Just keep an eye on his behavior ,,,, It just might be possible that he's been exposed to something that isn't correct for a person his age ,,,, But keep in mind that exposure could have come from a playmate as well ,,,, Like I said it's natural after a certain age that children will start playing and or exploring each other ,,,, How early in life they start this behavior depends on the individual because children mature at different rates ,,,, You can plan on it though that once it starts it's going to continue to some degree or another ,,,, This is where the talents of the parent enters ,,,, Just how well and with what can the parent occupy their childs mind ,,,, In what other direction can Mom and Dad steer the childs mind even if only for a little while ,,,, There is allot of material you can read on this subject if you are interested ,,,, People should think about how much they love their children before they have them and anyone who is or will eventually become a parent should study this material as their children will be people too ,,,, Generally there are allot of parallels in a parents child hood when compared to their own children so it isn't hard for the parent to put themselves in their childs head ,,,, You could keep this episode with your nephew in mind when faced with the same thing or something similar where your own children are concerned ,,,, So don't let this situation bother you too much but keep an eye on it or inform his parents so they can ,,,, Yoda said all of this ,,,,

Answer 2

Well that isn't as easy as most would think seeing he's very shy! But a #1 is to be sure your own kids treat him very well! Like share even if they don't want too! Play with him even if they don't want too! etc. It seems he'll be there for quite a spell, if it were possible to set up a room just for him would help greatly, and if his mother had his best interest in mind and he was able to bring a few of his favorite things with him! Have a talk with him and see what foods he likes the most and things he loves to do! Even a the shyist can be won over! Give him his privacy when he needs and wants it, and try to treat him as a long lost relative, could help a lot! Try making his favorite cookies or cupcakes, Have the whole family and him of course go out to eat or go to a movie! and Maybe get him some kind of a new toy! Something he'll always remember when he goes back home! It isn't just Gramma's that get to spoil, Aunties can too! Try to find out his dislikes and likes and with that will help a lot! and let your kids know that he's company and that company always comes first! Do things that he'll remember and that would make an impact to him wanting to come stay again! Plus in a way to make your sister feel your a great sister and Aunty! If you can get him to open up with in a few days so the shyness isn't so bad, you may then be able to see his likes and dislikes better and sooner! and he's going to have to realize that going to Aunty's isn't always going to be just fun and games either! But he's going to be there long enough to teach him the real world in the house too later on in his staying there! But it will take time! But if done right! He will be just fine after about a week! Keep a close eye out for agruments and fighting between the kids, that is a bad problem for him in a new place for that long of a period! If you have a problem with your own two kids, don't scold or argue with them in front of him! That could cause many other problems! You might not be a person who wants to be tip toeing sort of speaking in your own home and maybe your own kids might not want to either, but with him being really shy it will have to be done, for him to open up and feel secure with his surrounding! Im' sure you've heard the saying: Bite your tongue! Just make him feel very well liked and wanted there, and he'll be fine!

Answer 3

he probably seen his parents doing it and just thought he wanted to see what his dad was looking at or does he watch things like that on TV but honestly if he was being molested those aren't the signs but you should watch him carefully if he pulls away from people or look at someone strangely or get scared when someone touches him those are some of the signs is he opened when someone is talking to him? ask yourself all these questions but just keep your eyes opened

Answer 4

Well, at that age he could have just been curious and decided to explore while you were asleep. I would keep an eye on him and see if he exhibits any other unusual behavior and maybe mention it to his parents so that they can watch too.

Answer 5

How do you know who , if anyone at all,was feeling you up while you were ASLEEP? Were you both sleeping on the same bed?

Answer 6

He's probably curious,talk to his parents and keep an eye out for inappropriate behavior

Answer 7

He probably just curious about bodies. Tell him that what he's doing is inappropriate, and that it would be inappropriate for someone to do that to him. Talk to his parents about it, asking if they have explained the difference between 'good touching and bad touching'

Answer 8

Whats he been watching, monkey see monkey do.

Answer 9

he is young..some one he knows has probably done that and he witnissed and was thinking that was something you do..he probably didnt mean any harm..

Answer 10

I'd tell someone about this soon.