Should you approach the parents of the kids that bully your child?

Answer 1

yes, maybe they arent aware.. then again maybe you'll see where they got it from. However since it is the suing generation, if you contact them about the problem and they are aware of the issue, will put them on notice of the issues so that anything were to happen you could sue.

Answer 2

My guess is there's a whole lot more going on in the other boy's life than you're allowed to be made aware of. There really are some kids who just shouldn't be around each other, and this sounds like one of those situations. This other boy probably has a horrible home life, which may be why the teachers were quick to "brush it off," knowing there was more to the story than the boy just being a bully for the sake of being a bully. However, you should have been more informed about what was really going on, especially about the incident with the boy in the bathroom (although the teacher may not have known about the incident if your son or the other boys in the bathroom never said anything). If your son is still in the same grade/class, set up a conference immediately with his teachers, a principal, and the school counselor. Let them know about the findings from your son's psychologist and EXPECT an actual plan to be put forth for your son's safety regarding this other boy.

Answer 3

It depends on the situation. If it happens at school, then a 3-way conference between you, them and the teacher may be in order. If it is just some kids from the neighborhood, then visiting the parents WITHOUT your child in tow is the best thing to do. Just talk it out with the other parent. Be calm and just ask that they talk with their kid and ask them to stop bullying your kid.

Some people will get upset or offended or fly off the handle. Staying calm in the face of everything is the best way to go. You have to remember that kids are kids, and that bullying is something that almost every child goes through when they are young at some point or another. It is NOT something serious (normally).

Answer 4

You pose a very good question.
Bullying is now a very big problem, and there are a few parents who could not care less.

You would need to ask yourself, if I approach the parents on my own, what may be the outcome?

I would recommend that you speak to the school where your child attends, and explain your concerns, and ask for the opportunity to meet with the parents concerned, along with a third party, such as the headmaster, so you can talk things over.

This should be conducted in a fair and amicable way, so any problems that arise can be dealt with fairly and honestly.

Sometimes direct confrontation can lead to more problems, so please take advice as above.

Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

Answer 5

yes you should definately approach the parents. Its no use whatsoever in using the school to mediate . Schools are rubbish at this sort of thing . Speak to the parents , if you still get no joy then maybe teach your child to stand up more. Once the bully has been taken down a peg or two i can assure you that your childs life will be easier. Good luck

Answer 6

Only if the school have not been able to resolve the issue. Schools are very aware of the personal problems that lead kids to bully in the first place and tend to pussyfoot around trying to sort it out.
My daughter had an issue with a group of girls a year ago and I approached the mums in the playground and began to each one with the words, "I'm sure**** isn't the ringleader and has just got caught up in it all, but......." This takes the accusation out of the statement and enables them to deal with their child as opposed to defending them.
Good luck, it's a toughy!

Answer 7

Its not always the parents fault if their child is a bully or being bullied.I would approach the school if no result than home tutor my child untill someone takes notice or i would defenately approach the parents in a calm manner if no result than i would pull my child out of school if they are unhappy and transfer them.
If the parents get aggresive expalin your point than deal with the matter in your own actions I know i could not accept that!

Answer 8

If the child is to young to sort it out themselves, like elementary school or younger, then absolutely. You must put your foot down, and I'm sure the parents of the offending child would appreciate knowing that their child is acting up. However, if your child is older, like in middle or high school, you shouldn't talk to their parents. That could make things very difficult for your child, as far as embarrassment goes. And with older bullies, if they get in trouble for bullying, it usually only gets worse. Hope this helps!

Answer 9

From experience I would ask the school to become involved. I think it helps to have someone to mediate between the two parties. Often approaching parents (who will no doubt believe their child to be a perfect little angel) can cause more problems than it will help to solve.

The only time I would consider approaching them is if I knew them, and understood their parental values to be the same as mine.

I hope the issue is resolved quickly.

Answer 10

Difficult - if it is at school let them deal with the issue, however you need to make sure it is taken seriously and dealt with as you would expect, if not arrange a meeting with the teacher and parent to try and resolve this matter. If it is out of school you should approach the parents, this is a really awkward situation and any good parent would not condone this behaviour from their own children.
Hope you get this resoved before it affects you child to much.

Answer 11

Yes definately! I wouldn't think twice about speaking to them, getting them on your side and trying to sort things out. Bully's though tend to be bullys for a reason though, as there is usually something lacking in their lives!! Sometime parents of these children don't care less though and you could have a bigger problem on your hands. I would certainly speak to them, preferably with both children involved, and if that doesn't work, and you get serious vibes, I would suggest you lay a complaint with the police! Bullies are not taken seriously enough, and we need to make a stand. I hope you sort things out soon. Have you spoken with your son's teachers? Perhaps get their comments!