My bf who is older than me he is 22 years old and i am 18 years old.I cant seem to make him happy i am 5 ft 6 and weigh 110 pounds and he grabed my stomache to pinch the fat and told me to do some crunches.He likes bigger breasted women and i am only 32A.I feel so low when he points these things out to me i even whent to a plastic surgeon who told me to wait on surgery because i will fill in most likely by the age of 20. I dont know what to do my bf says i am very pretty but will point out all my figure flaws.?
2006-12-12 08:09:24 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People like that would say to skinny women that they needed to gain weight. They are just unhappy with theirself and want to bring you down with them. Misery loves company.
2006-12-12 08:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're 5'6" and you weigh 110 I don't see how you could have any stomach fat for him to pinch. Even if you looked like a model or a movie star he would find a way to bring you down. Run girl run - as far away from this loser as you can get. He is exhibiting the classic signs of an abusive personality and will always put you down and try to make you doubt yourself and feel bad about your looks. It makes him feel powerful and if you let it continue he will eventually belittle everything you do until you feel totally worthless. Drop kick him out of your life!
2006-12-12 08:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...hello...the relationship values you speak of are normal for the age of each of you and conditions. and you are hurt because of the emphasis placed on ''figure/appearance'' and to some loss.
the hurt feeling is your disappointment that 'love is conditional' .... or so it seems. ...... but it doesn't have to be.
you are learning this through him. he show you what is valueable to him.....but neglect fullness. or so it seem ... because the full values discovery process is occurring.
as you (and him) mature more and discover more full values of unconditional love .... with awareness and respect for thoughts and feelings which are also valueable.
the attraction between each of you is not only found in body/appearance no matter what you hear. it never is in relationship. this is so because attractions bring acceptance.
trying for acceptance ...
but the relationship language develops over time and quite often over several relationships.
discover this early ... now.
be conscious of who you are more fully.
so that small slights of mind which create loss in feeling do not misguide you from your more full worth.
relationships will naturally be more fullfilling.
i am sure you are decent and all around asset and essentially beautiful.
it is in the hearing.
let your boyfriend miss you when you don't pick up the phone or answer his e-mails.
ask him what to consider what are his values in you that such millimetres of flesh and bone may change..?
consider what it is you share in this discovery with him.
you will then be more fit for finding and securing an other with as conscious a prospect.
be well you......joyeux noel.
2006-12-16 07:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do one of three things:
1) Tell him that he's hurting you with what he says. Tell him he should love you the way you are, and if he doesn't, then get tell him to get lost.
2) Leave him and find someone that will be nice to you.
3) Do nothing. This will just make you hurt.
By the way, hon, you can't possibly be very fat. You're taller than me, and weigh only 5 lbs more than I do. I'm skinny, so you must be, too.
I wish the best for you!
2006-12-12 08:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by MandieGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM! 5 6" and 110. Your a princess out there. Believe me there are a lot of guys looking for you. Don't get a breast job either. I was a 32A till I had my kids at 27. Now I'm a 36C Full. I never lost the chest when I had my kids. I thank god everyday! The booby fair came.
2006-12-12 08:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by rdwngfever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon........this is NOT a relationship.
You might adore the guy, but he isn't accepting YOU are YOU are. This will just get worse as time goes on.
You need to find a man who will accept you as you are. He will chip away at your self esteem. Eventually this becomes a form of control. Please NEVER get involved with a guy who wants to change you and who makes you feel like you are not good enough.
Many women have sacrficed their lives to guys who put them down and take away their spirit. It sounds like he is already slowly making you feel not good enough.
You will end up an empty shell in the future if you continue to be with someone like this.
You are beautiful. He is unreasonable and controlling. You deserve to be treated better.
2006-12-12 08:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would leave him, because nothing you do will make him happy. Let's say you get the surgery...I guarantee that he will have something else to say about your appearance. Don't get surgery because of him. You are probably a very pretty girl who don't need it. If he loves you he wouldn't make you feel that way. So my advice is find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and how you look.
2006-12-12 08:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
point out his flaws and i guarntee it'll stop . cuz i bet u anything he's not built perfectly and he'll probably need to do even moe cruches than u. 110 is tiny youre not supposed to have no dd brestesses it''ll look so dumb the point of implants is to look natural. U can get plenty of guys. hell there sum guys on the team that would love to find a good girl instead of all of theese groupies we see every single week.
2006-12-12 11:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by 2004 draft pick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey;
we all have flaws--NO ONE IS PERFECT and beauty lies in the imperfections becuase that is what makes everyone different and unique.
He should appreciate you and if he wants you to stay healthy and to exercise that is one thing, but if he is just finding flaws and not letting you know how pretty and how wonderful you are--then leave him. YOu are young and have lots of time in your life to meet the guy who adores you --just for being YOU!.
Be with people who boost your sense of self--not those who drag you down!
2006-12-12 08:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump him. You're perfectly OK . . . I wish there were a lot more girls like you. Your breasts are a bit small, but there are much bigger problems to worry about than that. There are too many lonely guys out there who would appreciate a girl like you for you to keep up with that guy you're with. Have a nice day!
2006-12-12 08:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but your boyfriend sounds like a jerk. You have to be happy with you. I know hes important to you, but if you were important to him he wouldn't make you feel so bad. You are 5'6" and 110 pounds. You are a skinny minny. Don't worry about him. I think you should dump him and find someone who wants you just the way you are.
2006-12-12 08:14:50 · answer #11 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋