Where to begin? I am a 22 year old college senior whom seldom meets girls I actually care for. However, I recently met someone who I would love to engage in a relationship with. We have gone out three times in the past three weeks, all of which occured on a Saturday night. We talk often, plan dates, and text message each other throughout the day. We have very little in common but as they say, opposites attract. When we do go out we have a few drinks and share a few laughs but there is still a major lack of physical and mental connection. When we talk on the phone she seems much more interested in me as opposed to when we go out. Is she shy when we are face to face? We have not kissed yet but I have held her hand which was as exciting as watching a tennis match. So why does she continue talking with me? Why does she keep coming out with me? Is she interested? She knows I am interested in her and want to become more than "just friends" in the long run. Why is she doing this to me?
2006-12-12 08:01:26 · 10 answers · asked by Jason K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GESHHHH give it TIME. It takes time to get to know someone and to build a relationship. In time you may (hopefully) find out a few more things about her like: Yes she may be shy and that's the way she is. Be careful though because opposites don't always attract. Some times it can be a huge mistake. Just make sure you know what you want in a relationship such as, values, common interests give and take kind of things etc...Physical and mental connection is very important on both parts. Communicate more with her about how you feel and give it time.
2006-12-12 08:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info to really tell what's going on here. Maybe she enjoys you as her "phone" friend. Possibly she is just shy or perhaps she is bored and you are available and she is just going out with you because she doesn't have a lot of other things going on. If you are up for it, try to spend more time with her doing things that are fun and interactive where you have to talk and laugh, sounds stupid, but something like bowling, where you are being silly, having fun, out in public but it is casual and you are just having a good time making fun of each other, or cheering each other on, (if you are good at bowling or lucky). Stuff like that seems to tell if the people enjoy being around each other.
2006-12-12 16:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really want to know what she is thinking? This will be very bold, but hey better to get it out in the open. Next time you see her or go on a date, just give her a big kiss when she is not expecting it. It may be just the thing to melt her shyness away to where you see what is going on inside. If you want results, you gotta take risks. Also you can talk to her about it. Worth a try, what have you got to loose?
2006-12-12 16:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are waiting for her to make the next move. She probably is shy and just needs more time to get to know you - nothing in common? why do you want to continue to see her? Don't rush it - sounds like she may have a confidence/self esteem issue - lots of girls/women do
2006-12-12 16:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by lynnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should continue..maybe she juz isnt ready. give her some time..its only been 3 weeks, its short. i once wooed a gal for 2 damn yrs and i still dint get her. until she went over to japan for further studies and the guys she met are like crap so she regretted for not accepting me and came back to be with me. anyway the point is, if ur a really nice guy, she will know.
2006-12-12 19:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably likes you but doesn't know it yet! ???? i mean if she's going out with you its because she enjoys being around u..maybe she want u to give the 1st step and the 2nd and the 3rd
2006-12-12 16:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by ... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mister, the lady is shy. don't give up on ger. take it to the next level kiss her in the bar next time you are sharing a drink. why not. ??
2006-12-12 16:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste time. Just tell her what she thinks about being your girlfriend. If she is not interested, you can move on, otherwise you jsut got yourself a girlfriend
2006-12-12 16:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Zolex1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
free food and drinks?
2006-12-12 16:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know
2006-12-12 16:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋