A man jumped off a bridge and killed himself yesterday morning literally accross the road from my house. Although I didn't see anything, I find that I am disturbed by it and keep thinking about it and I'm doing my own head in!
2006-12-12 08:00:44 · 30 answers · asked by KellyG 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would say that that is a normal compassionate reaction to a tragedy. You dont have to know someone to feel disturbed by it. You will think about it less and less, there's no need to think you're doing your head in, you're not. You're just being human and fortunately one that hasnt be desensitized by all the crap that goes on today. Dont worry, it will pass, and who knows, maybe your compassion, thinking about it, has sent something warm his way wherever he may be now. :-)
2006-12-12 08:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one am pleased that you came on here to talk about it (this is where Q&A comes into it's own). Imagine if you could not tell anyone how you were feeling. It would most certainly have an adverse effect on your well being.
What and how you are feeling is a natural reaction and you need to go through this process otherwise it will never go away. However, if you feel stronlgy enough about it and it is becoming a real issue, you could always go and have a talk with your GP and if needs be he could perhaps refer you on to a counsellor. Anyway it is early days yet and time is a great healer so give yourself the luxury of getting it out of your system.
All the best to you and try not to dwell on what happened too much. You still have to get on with your own life.
2006-12-12 16:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These sort of incidents usually prey on our minds for a long time. You might benefit from actually speaking to someone about it, even if it's only a friend. If you find your thought becoming more disturbed, do make an appointment and go and see your GP. Sometimes these sort of events can trigger something subconscious, so don't let it get out of control. Most people who take such extreme measures are very sad and desperate souls. Nothing in life is ever so desperate, there are always people to talk to and who can help. Don't dwell on this mans sadness ... it was his own, and doing what he did was a very selfish act,as it affects sooo many people! Think positive thoughts!
2006-12-12 16:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by lynne 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I saw someone jump in front of a train when I was 16, it messed me up good and propar, got a bit obsessed with it to be honest.
Best thing to do is talk talk talk about it.
It really will help, even if your mates think it's a bit weird, just explain it really bothered you and you feel the complusion to talk it through.
But don't try and understand why he did it, you never can.
2006-12-12 16:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking about death after a specific event (not all the time, however) is a way to neutralize it and develop coping skills for when it does happen in your own life. Same thing happens when small children lose their favorite toy, see a flower die, then a pet die. It's all preparation for a more painful event.
2006-12-12 16:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, YOU ARE NOT BEING WIERD. it's normal that you keep thinking about it because it's a horrible thing that happened so near to where you were. don't worry about. because you didn't see anything, you won't be haunted by it. but if you keep thinking about this after a few months, ask for help. if it gets worse than that, go see a phsychiatrist or something. in the mean time, don't worry about it.
It's perfectly normal. :)
2006-12-12 16:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Karis Lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very unnerving when things like that happen so close to home, it's completely normal for you to be so creeped out. It'll pass, and in the meantime just keep yourself occupied. With your mind full of other thoughts you might forget about it easier.
2006-12-12 16:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its perfectly normal for it to bother you.
Last year I saw a woman run over by 3 cars.
I'll never forget it.
You probably wish you could have stopped him.
But if someone really wants to do it then they will.
Find out a little more about him it may offer you comfort.
2006-12-12 16:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon to feel disturbed by tragic events, especially if they happen close by. Try to occupy yourself with something to avoid thinking about it, and evetually the feeling will go away.
2006-12-12 16:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not strange, it happend close to you, you have every right to think about it. People have different reactions to death and it really effects those with phobias of it, so be not concerned.Try taking your mind off of it though but going shopping or doing something you enjoy so you don't bug yourself out.
2006-12-12 16:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by GrayMatters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋