How many girls can say their BF loves to go downtown? Not many i know and I'm incredibly lucky. The problem is that 8 times out of 10 he misses rather than hits... I've tried to talk while.. kind of coach because I know you can't read my mind lol But i dont want to make him feel like I'm not appreciative cause when He does it right it's golden .... SO How can I direct him to where he needs to go without him getting offended. lol and I hear the guys already What the hell is she complaining about I know I know .... It is mutually Benificial relationship BTW. Just really could use some advice
2006-12-12 07:56:56 · 15 answers · asked by Melanie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yah congrats on that one. My frined is great at getting what she wants in bed.. I am not as bold, but one of her favorites to get what she wants is to play the "Hot and Cold" game. Pretty much everyone as kids has played it... you're just going to adapt it to for adult fun!
Tell him you want to play a game.. start with him even.. Have him direct you using the game from cold, to warm, to hot on where he wants your to be and how much he likes what you are doing.
Then when its your turn.. you have a clear path to direct him to the right spot..
My other suggestion that has worked in the past for me as i am a little less into be direct is to remind them of a time that was great. Start with remember last time it was sooooooo good I just about flipped when you did whatever. Or man it was just so much more intense when you put your tongue here there..
Its not judgement and it lets him know he did it fantastic before.. and can again..
Good luck and enjoy.. congrats!
2006-12-12 08:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky question - a lot of guys don't like going downtown, but we feel we have to or you won't have a good time when we do it (and you'll resent going down on us) Also, feedback is nice (and important so we can improve our technique) but you've got to do it in such a way that it doesn't sound like nagging, or you barking orders at me like a drill sergent (I had a girl do that once - I never slept with her again after that!)
2006-12-12 08:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest about what you want. You don't have to sound like you are not happy with what he has done. Say it in a way that it sounds like something new, rather than just criticism. You don't have to actually tell him he is not doing good. A little advice can go a long way.
2006-12-12 08:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my hubby a before, during and after tour so he can see how things change and how to know if he's getting close or if there's more work to be done. (He's an engineer, so this worked well for him.) Also it helps to have a partner who really cares that you're satisfied because patience is needed. A woman's body is mysterious, and he has to want to discover what pleases you. We have a playfulness that makes it okay to ask for what we want.
2006-12-12 08:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say coach him cuz if he's missing 8 times out of 10 then he hasn't had much pratice at all,I know I'm good at it.
2006-12-12 08:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . I think he will take it well if you explain it to him. Just make some approving noises and give him directions, and when he does it right make some really good noises and touch him or rub him. I'm sure the difference in your reaction will make him notice how to do it right. Good luck!
2006-12-12 08:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to let him know that he is golden when he gets it but that he needs some practice.... oh and tell him you dont mean to offend him and if he loves you then hell understand and will probably research it or something
2006-12-12 08:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him.Most of us are willing to do what it takes to please our partner.Nothing is better than that look on her face that says you are doing it right but we aren't equiped the same wayyou are so we need guidance.Also not every woman is the same so what works for one may not work for the next.
2006-12-12 08:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book how to make love to a woman. Read it first with a yellow highlighter pen. Then give it to him. He'll appreciate it once he sees what good it's getting him
2006-12-12 07:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol u could do what i do and just fake it.. j/k !! For real all you can do is tell him you do enjoy it but that every woman is different and you really like it when he does it this way and that way.. Maybe the hints will work
2006-12-12 08:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋