Man is it hard to take care of A TEEN I try and I try but she still wants to be in her own world .How can I get her out of that ?
2006-12-12 07:53:50 · 7 answers · asked by chelle302002 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She stays in her room but she loves to talk to me when she comes out . Annd I know she is not doing nothing wrong shes home all the time .and scared of everyone else . Im the only one she talks too .But I still wonder if there is anything else i should do .i do lots of thingss w her.
2006-12-12 08:01:05 · update #1
Remember first and foremost, you are the parent.
If you are talking about a teen that comes home and goes directly to their bedroom, to watch TV, play videos games, on surf the net. You might think about making those activities move into a public place in the house. That will upset them but it will also give you access to them. Access meaning ability to talk, interact, and watch their body language. Find common things to talk about but don't go overboard. Most kids believe that their parents are from another planet and don't talk to them. This is where you have to take those little interactions to show them that you are not a mutant.
On the other hand if you teen has lost total contact with you, then look for something that is wrong. School troubles, peer pressure, or relationship trouble. Teens have a total shutdown mode that they go into. it is often due to stress or confusion and the fact that they think you would not understand them.
Once again you need to find some method to have contact with them. Showing them that you are not from another planet and finding common ground. In this case some tough love might have to be put into place. The kind that make you teen scream that they hate you. But they need to understand that they are still kids and parents are suppose to protect them even if they do not like the protection.
Remember you are the parent. you Have giveth and you can taketh away.
2006-12-12 08:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tony C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just like that as a child & teen till the day I moved out. That was before computers were big and stuff. I'm 31.
One thing is does she have a computer in her room? Is she in there surfing the net or playing games? Does she have a tv in there watching tv all the time? I love the show the Leave it to Beaver and other old shows. Back then it seemed it was so awful for a child to be sent to their room. What in the world could they do in there? lol
It may be a phase. But call me a mean mom, but I would allow a computer in a child' room. It's just not safe these days. My 10yr old is getting a tv/dvd player for Christmas (from grandma) & it will not be connect to the cable this way we can make sure she watches things we are ok with. But I am worried and will make sure she doesn't spend all her time up there watching it.
Does your daughter keep her door shut while she is up there? I knew a mom who took her daughter's door off when she slammed it. We did this to my 10yr old once and it was the end of the world. But she has never ever slammed the door again. If your daughter does keep her door shut let her know that it does bother you and be honest.
All in all hopefully she'll grow out of it. I never did though. lol I'm a loner and love lazy weekends.
2006-12-12 16:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, she's a teen. How old is she exactly. Mine is 13 and this is a very self absorbed age. Also very confusing and dramatic. All you can do is let her know you are there for her whenever she needs you but don't forget to initiate activities. If you can draw conversation out of her that is great but don't be too pushy. And when she does confide in you keep the conversation about her. My mother always wanted me to talk about what was going on in my life but it always turned into her problems and complaining about my dad. Not cool.
2006-12-12 16:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a magnet given to me by one of my daughters that says-Raising teenagers is like nailing jello to a tree. This is a very true statement as I raised 3 of them. They are now mothers of teenagers. Getting a teen out of their own world is an almost impossible task. You can insist that she take part in certain family activities and if she causes problems during these activities take away her access to her computer, phone, tv, or any of her other ways of escaping into her own world.
2006-12-12 16:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got to watch from the side lines. Don't get me wrong you still be the mom and have your rules and disapline, but if you child is not doing anything to hurt herself or anyone else then let your teen explore, you remember when you were that age, you just want to find yourself.
Be patient it goes away
2006-12-12 15:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait a few years and she goes away to College
she HAS to be in her own little world, she is becoming a woman and not just an extension of you. She will probably start rejecting everything that is meaningful to you soon also. All healthy teens do that. Just part of becoming who they are.
2006-12-12 15:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her out of what? Don't you remember when you were a teenager? I think you just kind of have to go with the flow with your teenage daughter. We can't ship them all to Europe can we?
2006-12-12 15:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with her. Do stuff with her. Take her places...nice places, like Hawai'i.
2006-12-12 15:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋