Why the attitude?

Question

Do you feel that women have way to much attitude torwards eachother? And why do they feel the need to judge eachother harsher than men judge us?

Answer 1

"sorry, did you say something, i was staring at your boobs, again"

says all of us guys who aren't being judgmental

"did that woman with the really hott body ask another question, lets ripp her a new one"

says all of the women who are being jealous of what you have and what they don't

Answer 2

I can give you a small piece of the puzzle, in my opinion, women aren't raised to be nice to one another...we're raised to do the best, get the best, be the best and that means having the best of everything and when we see other women and maybe they have something we think is better than what we have our jealousy takes control of our thought processes and we are, unfortunately, unable to illicit one decent comment...I work hard at not being a conniving, mean b***h everyday...it's not easy, cuz some of the things that women say to each other are horrible and I always have a good one liner in my pocket for times like those...but, I have to remember that I do not want to put on an image of an uncaring person...in my line of work I have to care about everyone and everything around me...even if I don't like the way I am being spoken to or treated I still have to care because the image I portray also portrays that of the company I work for...

Answer 3

It starts in kindergarten but REALLY gets going around second grade -- I have two teenage daughters, and grade 2 was about when they started seeing other girls making "clubs." The main purpose of these so-called "clubs," it seemed, was so that the girls who started the "club" could exclude other girls from them by way of punishment. (Both my daughters loved "Mean Girls" when they were at the appropriate age, the Lindsay Lohan movie that touches on the adolescent version of this phenomenon.)

Having watched this close up, and having had to soothe hurt feelings and also give my own daughters the strength to rise above this behavior, I've come to the following workable theory about it. Our culture does its best to teach girls and women to devalue themselves if they're not supermodel-perfect, so sadly, many women seem to have been rendered culturally incapable of feeling good about themselves. The only way they can feel BETTER than other women is to make OTHER women feel even worse.

It's like the difference between winning a race by running faster than your opponent, versus winning a race by tripping your opponent. Too many women have been acculturated to think that running faster isn't acceptable, isn't feminine, or just plain isn't something they're "allowed" to do, so they win by cutting down their rivals -- even if they're not really rivals. It's a sick kind of building self-esteem by lowering your esteem for others.

It's very reminiscent of a Japanese proverb, though with a slightly different emphasis in Japanese culture than in western female culture: "The nail that sticks up gets hammered down." In traditional Japanese culture, conformity and teamwork is highly valued and nonconformity is mistrusted and suppressed; in western female culture, it's much more personal -- "The nail that sticks up HIGHER THAN ME gets hammered down."

Men, on the other hand, are a lot more direct about relationships, whether with men or with women. A male bully is more likely to punch you in the mouth; a female bully will start a series of clubs, invite the other girls in class to join, and exclude you from each of them in turn, and then tell the other "club" members how nasty you are.

So for example... I suspect that you get a LOT of criticism about your 360 page from other women who call you all kinds of harsh names, and a lot of, shall we say, vocal approval and request for additional information (in visual format, I'd guess) from men. :-)

Answer 4

You know I too have often been really annoyed at this type of thing. I don't understand it.
I've come to the conclusion that LITTLE GIRLS act that way towards other women. Us WOMEN who know who we are and dig it, like other women and don't have the bad attitude. It always comes from insecure little girls, even if they are over 40.. still little girls.

Answer 5

Don't know why, but it is true that women are more critical of other women than men are, especially in the looks department.

Answer 6

Who's judging? Just walk away. Don't you judge. Can't give attitude if your not standing around waiting for it. Smile and walk away.

Answer 7

I think they do it because they feel it's necessary to compete for males. I believe it's just intinct to do that. Then again, I have no clue what women are thinking most of the time and will never understand them.

Answer 8

Because you women are just catty to each other.....and have nothing better to do instead of go ...hey look at her breasts there not real!! When men just go who cares nice hooters can I cope a feel!!!

Answer 9

Because men don't give a crap and have something that is called hobbies. Women are losing it, and they need to stop freaking out

Answer 10

because some women feel threaten by other women
they judge them bc they are ether jealous or they try to put some other girl down then to deal with the fact that they are ugly