My mom and dad arent together, and its been that way since I was 5. My dad cheated on my mom with an ugly woman. and now my dad and that lady have money problems, because she is a golddigger, and my dad sees that but doesnt do anything about it. My dad says if she's cheating on him, he's going to leave her, but the same way goes to my dad because he is cheating on her too, with another girl, and none of them know anything except my mom because i tell her everything.
I dont call my dad as part of the family anymore, since he hardly sees us (me and my bro). I have a b-f, and he doesnt know, but when he comes to it, he complains that he might not be a 'good guy' and he doesnt have room to talk. Ever since he found out I turned 16 and about to work, he is starting to care about my grades in school, when before he never has. He is only interested in what Im going to earn. He always blames me for everything, and this affected me last year in school, and i got straight F's.(more details)
2006-12-12 07:51:07 · 8 answers · asked by ThexSilentxOnex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
WOW...sounds like you have had a somewhat difficult childhood growing up but believe me, you are not alone. You also sound like you have a wonderful head on your shoulders with alot of common sense. If you are 16, you are not yet an adult but certainly not a child. Just know that parents are humans too and DEFINITELY make mistakes. Some more than others. I would suggest trying to talk with your dad about some of the issues you mentioned...preferably with a third party or mediator. You deserve to have your father know that you are hurt by his past actions and have been affected by them deeply. Once he validates your feelings, whether he changes or not, I think you will have some peace with letting out some of those bottled up feelings. Good luck with your grades and friends. Remember that your future is yours to make whatever you want it to be!!!! The cool thing is that you can use what you learn from your parents to either emulate or use it as a reminder that you want more than that for yourself. Take care! :)
2006-12-12 07:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something we don't need to know about are parents. There is always more to it then we know. Do not get invalid.
Your father: Some guys do not know what to do with their kids when they are little. Then when they get older they want a relationship. He and you do not know how to talk and do not know each other. That doesn't mean that he did not care about you or your grades. Now he wants to make sure you get good grades so you can get a good job and have a great life. You are lucky that now he is trying to be part of your life. Dads are not like mothers.
2006-12-12 08:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by bug822 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if both of your parents are telling you more than you really need to know. And you should just try very hard to stick to the things that are very important to you right now. Such as obtaining an education, and working part time if it is not going to interfere with your education. Your mother should not be telling you anything about your father cheating on her. And your father should not be discussing his relationship with his wife/girlfriend, etc. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-12 08:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't use parents for crutch for bad grades. Use them for inspiration. If dad blames you, then you must realize you have surpassed him in mental maturity. Understand you can't change most people. He will probably always have issues. Don't let him bring you down. Tell him exactly how you feel. Take control of the relationship. You will grow far past him if you do.
2006-12-12 07:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all parents have that natural ability to just understand and or how to be a parent. believe me i know. my mom has tried for years. your dad may just be realizing that your not his little girl anymore and you never know what went on in the past that may have prevented him from seeing you. since your on your why to adult hood try this on for size, consider asking you dad to go to lunch or the park with you have a talk about the past how you feel and the kind of future you want with him(not anyone else just him)
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2016-12-30 07:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dad needs to grow up. If I understand, your b-f thinks you should give your dad a chance - well it's none of his business. I'd say be cordial to your dad but don't go out of your way to see him
2006-12-12 07:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by lynnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel good about telling your mother everything, then continue to tell her everything. Your father lost your trust and respect, it is something that he is gonna have to earn back.
When my parents were having problems, i got F's too. Its hard, you should try and focus on you!
2006-12-12 08:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋