Is having a child as a teen ager the absolute WORST thing that can happen to you?
Do you think your life would have been markedly better if you would have aborted your child?
This question is for women or couples who had children as teen agers (19 counts as teen)
2006-12-12 07:50:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The worst thing that's every happened to me happened way before my daughter was born so no it's not the worst. Your life isn't over either. I could never have aborted my daughter...I just couldn't have lived with the guilt. I conceived right around my 17th birthday...in fact I gave birth exactly 9 months after my 17th birthday, a fact my little sister never lets me forget. I don't really think my life would have been any better without my daughter...in fact I think she gives me the drive to carry on even when things get tough. No matter how bad things get I can't give up anymore...because someone else is depending on me more than I've ever depended on myself. I'm often convinced she's the reason why I'm alive, the reason why I ever existed at all. Because by myself I'm pretty much useless but raising her to be the wonderful person I know she'll be is probably the most worthwhile task I'll ever accomplish.
2006-12-12 21:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant my senior year of high school and had my daughter when I was 18. Six years later, she is STILL the best thing that ever happened to me.
First, we must accept that the media portrays teenage mothers as irresponsible and igorant. Truthfully, anyone can read, research and seek advice to learn some basic parenting skills.I reject the idea that teenagers cannot take care of a baby. While it is certainly true that it is no easy task, it is NOT impossible! Secondly, the media portrays teen mothers as miserable and unhappy, but truthfully having a baby is a joy-in fact it has been the greatest experience in my life. The most important factor, for me, has been a strong, stable support system of people who love and accept me. I have encountered plenty of people looking to judge me based on past decisions, but I choose to surround myself and my daughter with loving, nurturing individuals.
I do NOT believe my life would be better if I had aborted. My life would have been easier, that's for sure. But I would have missed out on all the joys and frustrations of parenting-those experiences have made me who I am-a beautiful, strong, intelligent woman. I think, in some cases, abortion is the best option. But for me, having my daughter has been AWESOME!
2006-12-12 08:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Joyful Spirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first daughter at 17 (seond at 19) ... It wasan't easy but it wasn't the worst thing in the world either..
I missed out on social gatherings of my peers (prom, football games, basketball games, etc) I had added responsibility that made going to college more difficult, I was responsible for all the needs of another human being while I was still figuring out how to take care of my own needs...
If I could go back and change things I would definately change my timing and not have kids until after college, until after I was firmly into adulthood and fully knew who I was.... I am not saying I don't love and want my children I am just saying knowing what I do now I would change the timing if I could...
I am pro choice meaning I defend a woman's right to choose for herself what is best for her... For me however I wouldn't choose abortion just different timing if I could....
I do know women (girls) who were pregnant at the same time I was who never made it in life, never completed high school, never went to college, who live at or below the poverty line, who have allowed being pregnant at a young age to derail everything they had the potential to be... For them it might have been the worst thing that could happen to them.... For me it was meerly a "speed bump" that slowed down and made my trip through life a bit more difficult but didn't ruin it...
2006-12-12 08:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 and my hubby was 19 when we had our first. It not only wasn't the worse thing that could have happened to us... but the BEST!!!! My life may be better had I had an abortion (more money, less stress,etc.) but to me that is not better. My children are my life, my world. I want nothing more than to raise them to be better than hubby and I are. I wouldn't advise getting pregnant young on purpose but I also wouldn't advise an abortion no matter what age. Children are a blessing even if everyone says "it will be sooooo hard!!!"
Hope this helps
2006-12-12 07:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many ways to answer this question. I was 19 when I had my son. Sometimes it feels like I did the wrong thing. But I love him so much that I can't imagine life without him. Its rough but you get through it. Things turned out better for me. I got married to his father and have been for 3 years. My son is now my world. Yes I get frustrated and angry but who doesn't. Its a childs smile that can just make you melt. All I can say is I made the right decision. He is in my life and I love him dearly.
2006-12-12 07:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by angelfsu2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had my first daughter at 14 and im pregnant with my second one(17, 18 in march) and honestly i love being a mom and i always have. i get those moments that make me wish i could do some of the normal teenager things that i used to. but i could have never aborted my children and the thought of wishing i would have is sickening. i couldnt imagine my life without my daughter so it was worth it, to lose some teenage fun to be a mom to her
2006-12-12 08:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wasn't a teen mom but my mom was with me and no it was not horrible like the media portrays it. i was planned and wanted. my mom just wasn't interested in college at that time of her life and chose to start a family young. she had a lot of support and really enjoyed being a mom. age is not necessarily what matters. having a good support system and wanting the child and being accepting of all the sacrifices that having a child entails is what matters.
2006-12-12 07:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first 3 children between 15& 21 as a single parent. And it was hard but I wouldnt change a thing . I grew up really fast.
2006-12-12 08:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by latina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son when I was 19. It is a challenge but is not as bad as they make it seem. I think is only hard when u keep on having babies at that age. But if is only one, then no is not hard.
2006-12-12 08:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by naye77041 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only as good or as bad as you make it!
if you care, if you realy want it you can be successful regardless of what murdoc and fox news think of you
2006-12-12 10:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋