My son just turned 1 year old, and has been breatfed by my wife ever since he was born. But now he wont go sleep with me or her unless he is attached to her like a cow. It has been going on for the last week and we need to find an alternative. We try giving him a bottle and he wont take it. Tried the pacifier and he wont take it. Everything that worked when he was smaller doesnt work anymore. Tried letting him cry in his crib for 30min-1 hour didnt work either, he would just stand there screaming his lungs out. And its not only getting him to sleep, but KEEPING him asleep that is impossible too. He still wakes up sometimes every hour in the night crying and the only thing that calms him is breastfeeding. What can we do??
2006-12-12 07:46:45 · 11 answers · asked by ThePowerIsYours 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am going through the same thing with my son. He just turned one on nov. 19. He will only sleep with me and he has to have the breast. The other night my boyfriend and I left him over night with his grandma and he did just fine with the bottle. I think as long as mommy is not around baby realizes he has no choice. It is bottle or nothing. Good luck.
2006-12-12 09:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We went through this as well.
When weaning a child, the most difficult feeding to drop is the before bed, so you have picked a hard one!
However, what we did was
1st - Start a bedtime routine. Bath (the child doesn't need to be scrubbed down every night, it's just getting in the tub, getting wet, calming him) Put on the pj's, brush teeth. Then to his bedroom where we read one to two books, then I (mom) would nurse in rocking chair, rock him and then to bed.
2nd - Once the routine was established with dad participating, mom exited the scene...I would either hide or be out at bed time and dad would do the bath, books, would rock him and put him to bed.
It worked but we were patient, took it slow and helped our child make the transition with us. Now dad can put our son to bed, and I don't have to hide. I am practicing extending breastfeeding but he doesn't have to nurse everynight before bed.
You will be fine...just take a deep breathe, be ready to be patient and go for it!!
Good luck!!
2006-12-12 10:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so hard isnt it? You just have to stick to your guns on it!! Just like breaking from the bottle you have to make up your mind you are going to do it and do it. You cant give in on it, you have to let him cry. Dont offer the bottle or bink either by one they should be off those things. Give him a sippy cup and he will have to accept that. You cant let him win on this or he will win on everything else. Good luck!
2006-12-12 08:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by mare122870 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is almost one and we have the EXACT same problem. I am just going to give her a little more time. I refuse to go cold turkey...I am trying the slow approach...remember baby steps. I concentrate on one thing at a time... like getting her to sleep with out nursing...then tackle the getting up at night. Remember breast feeding is not like a bottle, besides being food the breast is a way to be close to their mom, and a way they comfort themselves. Good luck!
2006-12-12 10:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by raynesmomie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be consistent, keep offering the sippy cup, eventually he'll take it, just dont give up. It took a week for mine to get him off the breast, and yes we had some terrible nights with no sleep but that's part of parenting!!! Good luck!
2006-12-12 07:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by naye77041 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I weaned my daughter at 6 months, I'm glad I didn't wait till she was 1!! A friend of mine had this problem with her child. Have your wife put lemon juice on her nipples. It sounds weird, but it sometimes works, it makes the baby realize that at least with the bottle, he doesn't have to taste the lemon juice. Good luck!
2006-12-12 14:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by ky-ky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse nursed our little ones till they were 2. At that age, they are waiting to start up information reason and negotiation, and that makes it rather common to wean them. Importantly, by using that element, they are commonly actually nursing for convenience at evening or first ingredient in the morning. you only replace up the habitual, make constructive they sense comforted at those circumstances with a bath at evening, a touch time with you in the mornings, and an occasional tender "no, yet we may be able to have some milk and some breakfast in case you want" and also you have to be in large structure. If the nursing is heavily complicating your life, it truly is one ingredient, yet quitting because you get the experience from different those that "it really is time" then perchance you ought to reconsider weaning now.
2016-10-18 04:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop. If your wife doesn't offer him her breast, he'll have to find something else to eat. It's not him who is refusing to give up breastfeeding, it's your wife. The screaming will stop when it no longer works, but so far he is getting what he wants.
2006-12-12 08:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Roberta 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure about the weaning (I'm in the midst of it myself) but it is not normal for child his age to wake up so much. I would talk to your pediatrician about it.
2006-12-12 08:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Charles 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my he likes it just let him
2006-12-12 07:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by kaitlyn w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋