I think alot of parents push their children to do what they have dreamed that there children will grow up to do, then they push them to do that one thing. Children try to please their parents, because they love them, don't want to hurt them. Alot of times , go on seeking what the parents want them to do, even though its not in that childs heart.
If the parents cannot see somewhere along the line that this child is not happy, and can say it's ok son, you do what makes you happy as long as its legal, your working hard at it. Parents have to support.
Now days parents are so afraid of letting their children make a mistake, when its the parents making the mistakes. Thats the only way we learn is by making mistakes. Some of them are very hard mistakes. No we don't ever want them to make that HARD mistake. So we try to guide our children to know what is RIGHT from WRONG. And as long as I know that my children know that. Then they can choose.
I am so afraid one of my boys may not be happy. He has been in school since he was 2. He is now in his last year of law school. Just the other day he ask his day, " would you be unhappy with me if after i graduate, I decide to do something else".
See I felt right then and there, he doesn't want to let his dad down. If he chooses so not to pursue the law field, even after he has his degree.
Yes we will still love him. As a mother my love is unconditional. I will support both of my sons with what ever in life. And as long as I live I will do my best to make them happy.
May God Bless you & Happy Holidays.
2006-12-12 08:00:48
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answered by Sumer 1
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it depends...if my kid was getting bad grades, I would sit on them (figure of speech) until the grades went up. If the child wanted to study music or art and I knew it would mean possibly being poor, I would support it because in reality, making your child (anyone really) "be" something can make them resentful.
It all depends on what you are asking. I would be proud of achievements, even if I didn't understand what the child was getting out of it. However, the failure of obligations or chores would be followed by consequences appropriate for the failure.
2006-12-12 07:51:31
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answered by xxx 3
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It is really hard as a parent not to try to "persuade" our children to do things we ourselves wish we had done better whether it be sports or friends or school...whatever. I have a 9 yr old daughter and I honestly make a conscious effort to always have her best interest at heart and make sure that I give her the room to grow and make her own mistakes. It is her life to live...not mine. My job is too make sure that she has the tools to navigate when I am not there. I would die for my daughter and seeing her happy is the best thing in the world.
2006-12-12 07:50:46
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answered by Ginger P 3
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Well, of course I want my kids happiness, but there is a certain level or responsibility and respect that the child should know their limitations and know that they can't get anything that they want. Especially if the parents are not agreeing with whatever it is that you want. Don't be a brat and respect your parents and their decisions. Once you have kids, you'll know what I'm talking about.
2006-12-12 07:49:41
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answered by jen 2
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No matter what you can only try your best to direct them correctly, sometimes it takes thema few falls before they realize the right way. Gotta let them fall every now and then, cushions are not always good. Just keep an eye open.
2006-12-12 07:49:38
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answered by marie1257 4
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I think this is a loaded question but here we go....as long as their decision was both morally and physically sound I would not interfere. My girls have to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes, however if those decisions would lead to physical harm or shame I direct them away from that decision and stand my ground as a parent.
2006-12-12 07:49:29
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answered by Anonymous
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I will always love my babies no matter what! Its their life, all that matters is that they are happy with themselves and what they are doing. I will always voice my opinion to them about Morales and morale fiber. I will just support them and do my best to raise them well. I know how it is to not have really had that support, so I will do things slight different. I love my parents! But they just didn't really understand so I am going to try harder. Peace & Love
2006-12-12 07:55:51
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answered by Jes 2
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I believe that if you love you kids you should be happy for ANY accomplisment. as is their life and they have to live with what they make of it. Make sure you support them on their desisions but if is something that might be of harm, advice them, but that all you can do, because humans experiment with their lives to find happiness and just because you say something that doesnt mean that they are going to do it. LOVE THEM. and show them you are proud.
2006-12-12 07:50:57
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answered by u_better_remember_me 3
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As long as they are making wise choices it doesnt matter what they do as long as they are happy and not doing anything that would be considered breaking the law. If my kids are happy, I am happy for them. All that counts in the long run is happiness.
2006-12-12 07:52:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes i would do anything to make my son happy! I was drafted by the NHL (Pheonix Coyotes) in 2000. my son was born, and I thaught Excellent I can teeach him about hockey and help him with his game......... Turns out he doesn't like hockey......I was crushed. He likes soccer,and hes a pretty good player at that.But as much as I wanted him to play hockey I knew that this is his decision to make.All you can do is love them and support them in every way you can. We have learned from our mistakes it's time to let them learn theres..Good Luck...
2006-12-12 07:55:23
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answered by rush 2
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