I really lack in confidence and self esteem, how can i sort this out b4 i lose the man i luv so much ? sad ? yes i no !
2006-12-12 07:41:09 · 9 answers · asked by Daniella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the resources available to you as to what you can do about this problem. If you have counseling available to you, take advantage of that as it would be a good starting point. Otherwise, it may be helpful to read books on self-development that you can find at the library or bookstore. Confidence usually grows over time. Take it easy on yourself and figure out what would make you feel better about yourself. It's got to be all about you though...you can't seek to change in order to hang onto a guy. It doesn't work that way.
2006-12-12 07:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do little things that give you the opportunity to feel good about yourself and keep a mental list of them. Doing something for someone else is the best way because it lets you prove to yourself you're a good, caring and smart person. A few suggestions:
1) Smile and say thank you to a store clerk. That doesn't happen often and they appreciate it.
2) Give money to a homeless person. It won't fix their problem but you'll never know if your gesture may get them thru to tomorrow and something could change for them.
3) Call a friend just to say hello. Often there's something that's bothering them (even a very little thing)and they're helped just by you thinking of them.
4) If you see a stranger on the street with a pretty dog or a cute baby, comment about it. They'll usually light up and feel good because of it.
5) Give your mom flowers. No reason, just because. It will mean alot.
Doing stuff like that is a two-fer...the other person is helped and encouraged and so are you.
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there is always going to be someone who is better than you or prettier than you or who has nicer things than you...no matter how talented or beautiful you are. you cant compare yourself to anyone else! One might be better at soccer but you are probably better than her at a ton of things. keep believing in yourself and be proud of who you are!
2006-12-12 15:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by `✪~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes just eating right and working out can do wonders for a persons self esteem. Your work out could be as simple as walking for 20min at lunch to hitting the gym, a cardio class, martial arts, or start playing a sport. But eating right and getting active is a positive move forward for your life. If you cant change what you don't like about your self, then change the way you think about it. Good luck!
2006-12-12 15:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all has this guy cheated on you?i dont mean to be negative but it sounds very much like a guy i went out with who i absolutley adored and would have done anything for, who constantly told me i nagged him, i ended up being so bad i was going through his phone, his bags, his room and i worked out that when we broke up, he ws the reason for my lack of confidence. he always threatened me with' if you dont change you will lose me and you will always be like it and lose all the other people you have relationships with' i actually beleived this until i saw what he had turned his new girlfriend into........maybe the answer is lose him and become stronger, if he loved you, he would stay with you to help, not leave. good luck hun x
2006-12-12 15:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not sad you realize there is a problem and making the first step of wanting to solve it....Being happy with yourself starts with in...Think positive about yourself and life...Dont let negativity get the best of you...Good Luck!
2006-12-12 15:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't sad honey, you are human!
Just tell yourself this- would you be with him if you didn't want to be?
No?
Then he must WANT to be with you!
Madonna(worlds most confident woman yes?) has also admitted to being paranoid about herself, but when she gets that way, she just thinks'well they are prettier, richer,more talentred etc, but I am MADONNA!)
Just tell yourself that, lots of people are different things, but only you are the shining ray of light that is YOU!
And who does your man love and want to be with?
YOU YOU YOU!
Hold on to that thought.
Coz it's true.
2006-12-12 15:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly its not sad, these things happen- i should know ive been there. now this may sound a little mad, but try it you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain...decide on a mantra and repeat it to yourself... for example 'i am beautiful' or 'i am smart' etc repeat it to yourself- and most importantly believe it, and whenever you feel yourself feeling weak or insecure repeat it again.
2006-12-12 16:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is to figure out what YOU want rather tahn worry about what others want, think and feel about you. They are NOT important. YOU are.
2006-12-12 15:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl at some point or another as women we all go through that..it will pass as you get older
2006-12-12 15:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋