Should I contact my biological father?

Question

IS HE ILL? AND WILL HE MAKE-UP FOR NEVER MAKING CHILD-SUPPORT PAYMENTS$?
I just recently found out that my biological father lives 6 hours away from me. I haven't seen him since I was 3, and I'm 33. My mother and him divorced and went their separate ways, he never paid child support and I never heard from him. I have a child of my own now. She's 3. I have a disease, and my mom thinks he has it too. I really want to ask him about it. Also, and this is big, he's rich, I mean he's a millionaire. Should I ask him for money?

Answer 1

yes u should meet him not for money ,u will get back your father whom u did not see since your child hood ...meet him he is your father he will be happy 2 seeu ....tell him about your disease he will definately help u if he can ...good luck..

Answer 2

First of all I would have to ask you Is it really in your heart to really get to know your biological father? Second of all, Your disease, if it is a hereditary thing, then I can see where you would be concerned. You are 33 years old. I would be more concerned about getting the relationship with my true father. The Bible says " The rich man will get to heaven like the camel will throw the eye of a needle". So how important is the money right now.
If you need it to help with the disease then discuss this with him.
God wants love first. He will take care of us.
Don't envy him because he has the money and didn't share it. That is something I think thats between God & him.
I hope you can see where I'm coming from.
You can have all the money in the world, but if you don't have love you don't have anything. Believe me I know. I'm going through a difficult time myself right now. I don't have alot of money by no means, but I would give everything I have just to mend the love with my family. I've lost 2 nephews this year. One due to illness the other to sucide. Plus, a daughter-in-law that has all but cut my throat. All for being loving. But not in their eyes.
May God Bless You.
I Truly Hoped this helped you make your decision. And it has to be your decision, not anyone elses.

Answer 3

Who cares about his money odds are if he is ill and passes you wont see one cent of it and that is his right not to leave any to you. Secondly if you are ill with whatever disease doctors can tell you if it is hereditary or not and if your moms side doesn't have it then chances are your fathers side does. My husband found his biological father and mother and they were nothing but a total disappointment to him. If your mother was so worried about her child support payments {if they were court ordered} then she could have gone after him for them, this money is not money you are entitled to its money owed to your mom. If it is court ordered she should take him to court with the court order and demand back payment {though I am sure the statuate of limitations has run out}. However I'm sure your mother did what she had to do in order to provide for you. Should you ask him for money? lmfao NO you should not! He doesn't know you from the drunk on the street corner nor do you know him. I come from a well off and I mean very well off family my parents were married and I knew the money was THEIRS not mine and if they gave me any {and they did all the time} it was a privilege not a requirement!

But remember if you do contact your bioligical father there are two sides to every story and the side you heard for 30 yrs may not match up to what he feels really happened.

Answer 4

Yes, contact him. If nothing else to satisfy your curiosity. My Father died when I was 15 and I as well as my siblings, would do anything to have him here to see us as adults and to see his grandchildren. You deserve not to let the opportunity pass. As for the money, I wouldn't ask for it, if he wanted me to have any I'd want to know it was done strictly because he wanted to. It sucks that he never paid support but you and your Mother got through it. Be grateful that your Mom cared enough to make a decent life. And I think you should know his side of the story. It may be that he has an entirely different take on what happened then what your Mom has told you. Good or bad, I'd have to take the opportunity. Then you can go on with your life without wondering what would have happened. Good luck!

Answer 5

I was raised with out my father. Last year I found out I have a sister. My sister is close with his family, of which the family does not know me. I saw my father twice through out my life and spoke to him over the phone once. My sister gave me his number. I still don't have the courage to call. I don't want to make things complicted, my life is good. I may be missing out on a blessing. If you have the courage, do it. Make peace at the very least. To ask for money,(even though it is owed), humble yourself and don't ask. It may open the door of him thinking it's just about the money, when it isn't. Let his own guilt convict him. I pray for the best.

Answer 6

Yes, contact him. There may be all sorts of reasons he didn't contact you growing up. Hear him out. Mine was threatened with his life if he contacted my sister and I. That may not be the case for you but who knows?? No, do not ask for money unless you have developed a relationship first. It will make you sound like you more interested in his money than in him as your father. If you aren't looking for a relationship then by all means ask for money. If he is a good man you shouldn't need to ask, he will offer.

Answer 7

Talk to him. At least find out what medical information he has on his side of the family. It will help you and your child. I wouldn't focus on his money. Sounds like you have done fine with out it. If after you meet him you want him in your life, then bring up money. Or just describe what you are going threw and see if he offers

Good luck

Answer 8

Hell yeah. I would at least try to get info about your disease and to ask why he never paid child support when he obviously had the means to.

Answer 9

Er... do you want to see your father because he's rich or because you as his daughter, would like to fill in the lost years? I wish I knew him because I'd tell him not to bother as his daughter sounds like a gold digger.

If you're not a gold-digger and genuinely want to meet him to find out more about him and your disease then I suggest you write to him telling him that you know there are two sides to every story and you'd like to know why he didn't look for you.

Answer 10

I don't know who my mother is either. I do think you should contact your father but not if you're angry with him. He does owe you an explanation but going at him angry wont get you that. And if you go at him angry,he probably wont give you any money either! You're mom should have sued him for child support years ago, he would have gone to jail.