Im 13, a girl my age is one of my best friends. Unfortunately she joined a bad crowd and lately has been doing some bad and dangerous stuff, like drinking, I told her to leave those guys but she didnt. Her mom suspected of something and asked have a talk with me about her daughter. I said Ok and was thinking about what I's tell her, after all it's kinda bad to tell on a frend and break her trust, though I'm sure her mom only wants to protect her and is a nice woman. But her mom talked with my parents first and today soon after lunch her mom came over, she had arranged with my partents we'd have a conversation ,her me, my parents. I was caught by surprise, got embarrassed.Her mom was kinda nervous, even crying and asked me to tell the truth. I ended up telling everything I knew, though I said she's my friend and a good girl. I have a wonderful relationship w/ my parents, but they messed up, they should have told me her mom would come over, could never expose me to that situation.
2006-12-12 07:25:08 · 11 answers · asked by Ana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I felt like they made a trap to catch me. I complained a alot, if they werent so good parents I's say they broke my trust
2006-12-12 07:26:59 · update #1
Her mother was trying to be the best mom she could, and if that meant making you a little uncomfortable for a while then so be it. Your mom was doing the right thing too, she would appreciate it if your friend helped out if you were in any trouble.
2006-12-12 08:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by NeonLoveChicken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sorry I do not agree with you.
What I see in your story is a Mother who is hurting and desperate to help her daughter. You did the right thing by telling, even if your friend is angry with you for doing it. I'm not really sure how this could be perceived as a "traumatic" situation for you. It was maybe embarassing and uncomfortable, but really, let's not over-dramatize things. I realize that's easy to do when you're 13 though.
Be consoled with the knowledge that you have probably helped to save your friend from a REALLY bad and traumatic experience that she might have had with those bad friends of hers. You may have saved her life by being truthful and cooperative with her Mother, who, although at 13 it's hard to see, has her daughter's best interests at heart and knows best for her.
Good job!
2006-12-12 07:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents did what they thought was right at the time for you...It sounds to me like they love you very much and all though you may not agree with their methods they really were only thinking of you because they love you and are concerned for you.As far as your friend is concerned...you had no choice because you are concerned with her as well and telling her mom when you are concerned is not snitching when your motives are right.Which they are....because you care for your friend! Hopefully she'll see this too and realize that the path she is choosing to take is a dangerous one...You sound like a very intelligent girl and I hope that you will continue to be a leader and not be influenced to follow in her footsteps.
2006-12-12 07:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents had told you they were coming - you would have had time to get your story straight with your friend - and you both could have told the same lies.
In the long run - you helped your friend.
Your parents sound like okay people. Get over it. When I read your question about a traumatic situation - I thought they were exposing you to sex or drugs or something very inappropriate. You'll live.
2006-12-12 07:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by liddabet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that your parents did the right thing. Your friends mom is obviously concerned about her daughters well being. She trusted you enough to get you to help her understand her daughter's ways. Maybe your parents thought that if they alerted your beforehand, that you wouldn't have told the whole truth about your friend. I think that you've done your friend a favor. Even though it may not seem like it now, but you've probably saved her life.
2006-12-12 07:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does kinda sound like you were "double teamed" in this situation. It wasn't quite fair forcing you to squeal like that. But you've got to think of it from the perspective of your friend's mom....when you're up against a wall and you've really got problems, you've got to do something even if it's wrong. That's probably about where she is with her daughter, and she needs to find some way to help her.
2006-12-12 07:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not exactly fair on you but maybe thye knew it would be the only way to get what they needed to know from you. Sounds unfair I know but if it stops your friend getting hooked on drugs or prregnant or worse then thats probably more important don't you think.
Look at this way if your friends mom sorts her out now you can keep your friend without having to become a Gin n Juice ho yourself :)
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2016-10-05 05:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not a big deal. Your friends Mom probably implied that your parents would be involved you just didn't pick up on it.
2006-12-12 07:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ana dear, don't feel guilty, its no ones fault just chill. your mom would have done the same thing if you were in your friends shoes.
parents really care for their child and more seriously when they are 13... so grow up that's it..
2006-12-12 07:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by rajiv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋