What should i do ?

Question

My husband recently had a stroke .His family is not from this country.while my husbands stay in the hos. i got into a lil arguement w/ his fam. over nobodys was getting any answers about what was going on w/ my husband, they tought i knew what was going on & was not telling them because my husband signed a paper saying i would make all final decesions. Since then they have not came to see my husband now he is home &doing well they want us to come to there house for christmas eve.to . I told him to go & be w/ his family. We can spend christmas day together., the funny thing is i really liked them before all of this. Maybe because after everything i felt like it didnt matter they should have been there for him.Not mad at me for cursing them out they should have not abandond him they way they did.Now that he's better they want us to be like all this never happened. Iam not mad at them i just dont want to be around people like that

Answer 1

You have every right to feel the way you do. I would feel the same way. Don't go over there and pretend that everything that they have said and done is in the past and alright. You are his wife and if he didn't want them to know his business then that is his right. If they want to apologize, fine, but just keep from getting friendly with them at a minimum for now on. They'll try that trick again.

Answer 2

People handle stress and difficulty in their lives in different ways, even though you may not agree with the way they handled themselves you should be accepting of it. Also if it is all of them seeing things one way and only you seeing it another, perhaps there is some merit to it and you should try to see things from their point of view.
Regardless of who is right or wrong, it is time to bury the hatchet, just like they should have been there for your husband no matter what happened between you and them, you should be willing to move forward and put the past behind you for the sake of your husband. His family is obviously important to him so it will be important to him that you get along with them. If you really love your husband you will try to forgive them, after a stroke he doesn't need the stress of being in the middle of a family fight even if the extent of it is simply the silent treatment.

Answer 3

For the sake of your husbands health and recovery, let bygones be bygones. T'is the season......... It may impede his recovery to stress him with this sort of thing. You may want to take one of his family members aside and let them know your position and how it made you feel. Try to make amends, and remember, every one reacts differently to this sort of situation maybe they reacted from the heart and not necessarily the head.

Answer 4

Family is blood...everyone acts differently when it comes to illness and death.
I say be the bigger person and forgive them and go stand beside your husband and support him 100%...then if they act like *3@**
you know you did your best and they showed their worst!

Answer 5

Forgive and forget, after all they are your husbands parents. Suck it up and go, try and have a good time and avoid the subject.

Answer 6

i understand u totally. let them be like that. some people are naturally unhappy. obviously the do not understand the word stroke. good luck, remember kill them with kindness

Answer 7

Your husband should be the one to decide whether or not they should've been there for him. He is willing and able to forgive and be around them. Why are you not able to?

Answer 8

Maybe tell your husband that you don't feel confrotable with his family tell him that you like them and all but you don't like to be with people like that

Answer 9

ENJOY life, peace love and happiness you will prevail

Answer 10

~Do what your heart tells you to do.~