We have been together for 4 years and all of a sudden he is acting very strange. He doesn't want to kiss me or show any affection for that matter besides sex. Actually, he doesn't even want sex as much any more. We use to hug, kiss, makeout all the time. Now I am lucky to get a small peck a day.
He is also wanting to hang out with his old friends again who do drugs. I don't want him too and he knows that. He hasn't done anything with them in a while (as of my knowledge) but he does call them.
When I try to talk to him about it he just says "nothing is wrong" "I have always acted this way" which isn't true. He also sleeps a lot, pretty much all the time. I am lucky to see him awake when he comes to see me.
Has anyone else ever had this problem? If so what caused it and what did you do about it?
Any advice?
2006-12-12 07:06:16 · 20 answers · asked by Lauren N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
~He is SO ON METH! Run for the hills as fast as you can! You can bet he's cheating too, because that stuff makes you horny.~
2006-12-12 07:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but honey it sounds like he has fallen off the wagon, so to speak. If he is sleeping all the time and his behaviour has changed, I would have to say that he is doing drugs again, and by becoming distant with you, it is his way of protecting himself. He knows you do not approve of that life, so he is probably feeling guilty. Although it is normal for a woman to want to "save" the man that we love, in this case I would suggest that you walk away. I know that it will be very difficult, however, if he knows how you feel and still partakes, that shows a lack of respect. And if the man that you love doesn't respect you, chances are he will break you down. I could be wrong, and whatever decision you make, good luck.
2006-12-12 07:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tainted Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These could be signs of serious trouble, especially for him. I'd say, for a while dont pester him, & in fact cool off your interest in him too.
If he notices, & asks why you seem disinterested, use it as an opportunity to discuss things out. Ask him if he is open for a truthful & mature discussion first.
If he doesn't notice, & is happily away from you, ask yourself - is he really the only one you can love ? Is he worth your affection & concern ? If your heart says no, you have some changes to make.
Come back after doing this basic test. Remain a brave heart, and all the best !
2006-12-12 07:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by c_ravi55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what your saying, I see two possible problems:
1) He's doing drugs with his old friends again.
2) He's cheating on you with another girl. This would explain why he's not in the mood to kiss you or show any affection, and also explains why he's not in the mood for sex as much anymore.
These are usually signs that he's doing something that he shouldn't be doing.
2006-12-12 07:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lennon1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, marijuana lowers your sex drive tremendously. He can't get it up and the side affect makes you sleep. If he has a temper, it's speed and he can't get up for three days.
Anyway, you have got to move on. Don't live in the memory of how good it was and project that he has to be that way in the future or how much time you've invested in the relationship - Ship out and move on!
2006-12-12 07:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your b/f been experiencing any problems that you are aware of? If so, this could be a contributor to stress. You also mentioned that he is hanging out with friends taking part in drugs
2006-12-12 07:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, sleeping a lot could indicate either a sickness or a lot of stress. There is a chance he has fallen for another one of his old friends, which explains why he is with them, and his seemingly loss of interest in you. Please, do not take this as the definate case, it may not be that at all.
Good Luck and God bless
2006-12-12 07:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more u bug him of his NEW/ or re-new'd behavior the more ur gonna push him away... it sounds like he's back to his old ways, and doing drugs, since they have been known to decreased sexual appetite... u can either stay with him, be there for him and deal with it, or for ur own benefit leave him. let him know why, and let him know that u will be there for him if he needs u. Best of luck
2006-12-12 07:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg im having simalar problem like my future husband just got back from bootcamp cause he joined the marines and he wont kiss me or even tell me he loves me anymore unless i say it first but im sure its just a stage well i hope so cause i want my boyfriend back.lol....well im sorry i know im supost to be answereing your question well he is just going through a party time you know just talk to him about how you feel and see if yalll could come to a slution good luck...
2006-12-12 07:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by L.E.17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl it's been four yrs he's probably just bored move on or give him some space so that he knows if you are really what he wants only he can decide in this case sorry but it's either that or he's with someone else
2006-12-12 07:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by turtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that he is doing drugs again. Be careful...he may start acting violent or start pawning you stuff in order to get his next high. I would leave/have him leave until he could prove that he wasn't doing.
2006-12-12 07:10:15 · answer #11 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋