I am really not sure of the girl i am already engaged to. She is really not my type. I feel much suffocated in the relationship. 24/7 she wants me to update her about my whereabouts, what am I doing, what have I done, where am a going…..i am going crazy. I am a kind a guy wanting to meet my friends, go out for parties but she is a total introvert and very boring too.... but at the same time she is very simple and loving. Please help me make a decision.
2006-12-12 07:05:23 · 6 answers · asked by yahoo_dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you just made the decision for your self.
Maybe you are not ready for marriage because truthfully that is what marriage is all about. You should WANT or be okay with that person knowing where you are, at what time, and with who.
Its okay to like to go to parties with friends but you should wonder why dont you want her around? If you where/are going to marry it should be with someone whom you cant be without...
It wont work for you if you think she is a total introvert and is boring because like everything, love and infactuation can come to an end one day, many years later ofcourse but when it happens thats when the strong bond and connection between the both of you (friendship) kicks in and sparks up the relationship again. Mariiage is forever and if you cant see your self with that person forever then stop it before "forever" begins.
2006-12-12 07:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that decision. It's your life and your the one that is going to have to live it. Not any of us. She just might be trying to have a conversation with you, not really checking up on you unless she has reason to doubt you. Going by what you have said here, she does have a reason to doubt you. If you feel suffocated and etc... then why do you want to be with her? You need to ask yourself if you can live with her acting like this for the rest of your life. Til death do you part. That is who she is and 9 times out of 10 people do not change. I don't think your in love with this girl. It's not fair to her for you to feel this way and she not know. Don't string her along. You will find the person you are meant to be with and you will not question if she is the one.
2006-12-12 07:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked her to marry you for a reason right? If that reason has changed, then you owe it to her to be honest with her. Maybe talking to her about how you feel will make her more aware of her suffocating tendencies....but you need to take her needs into account too. Be prepared to make compromises on your end as well. If neither of you are willing to do that, then perhaps you have drifted too far apart. If you two are on shaky ground, now is the best time to address it.
2006-12-12 07:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really rethink this situation. Why on earth would you want to commit a life time to a person that you have nothing in common with. A marriage like that is doomed from the beginning. Lots of people are simple and loving and yet are extroverts with a life of their own. I suggest you find one of those people and get out of this realtionship before it is too costly and painful.
2006-12-12 07:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...put the crack pipe down and step way back....man what are you thinking? If you are doubting now...run like hell...it only gets worse from here...
Man I'm am speaking from experience...I was married to someone whom I thought I loved but there was always that lingering doubt...many years later I realized I should have listened to that inner voice the first damn time!
2006-12-12 07:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and HER a favor. Don't marry her.
2006-12-12 07:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋