My 3 year old daughter dumped a huge tin of crayons on the floor because she was mad at me. I made her pick them all up (there were like 500 crayons in there) and now my mother-in-law is saying that was too much work for a 3 year old and that I'm too hard on my daughter. What do you think?
2006-12-12 07:01:18 · 36 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think you did the right thing!! :o)
2006-12-12 07:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I would have done the exact same thing!! I am a parent of a 2 and a 4 year old.
Your daughter dumped the crayons out of anger, knowing she'd make a mess, and it was a good thing you did to make her responsible for her mess! You're teaching her at a young age that she is responsible for her actions. At age 3 she is ready to learn cause and effect.
And remember, you are the one who is going to have to deal with her, not your mother in law. If you pick up the crayons for your daughter, that's teaching her negative behavior. I know its tough sometimes when you have a mother in law or someone trying to give you advice... but GOOD JOB on doing what you felt was right!
2006-12-12 07:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that was to hard for a 3 year old. Kids are smart and will pick up on things, such as what they can get away with. If you let them get away with stuff early then it will be hard to get control back later. Maybe in the future seperate the crayons so she has less to pick up (and less mess) if it happens again. Part of being a parent is teaching your children what is right and wrong. To many parents want their kids to like them and let that take over when it comes to the kid doing things they shouldnt. As far as your mother in law, there are things to learn from our parents since they have been there before but take want you think is good and use it. It wont be everything, and you are the one responsible for you child growing into a responsilble adult.
2006-12-12 07:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by chris c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! Picking up crayons is not that difficult mentally or physically. Secondly, discipline is good and the punishment fit the crime. She is capable of knowing that it was wrong and to pick them up was appropriate. Children have to learn consequences for thier reactions. I would've done the same thing, maybe even a time out. I have 2 children 5 and 2 1/2. Kudos on your reaction. Besides you're the mother, not your monster-in-law.
2006-12-12 07:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Miss O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right! If my child did that I would have done the same thing. Next time maybe your daughter will think twice about dumping the crayons. She will be thinking " last time I had to pick those up, I am not doing that again."
2006-12-15 05:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by hoilday luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were right by making her clean up the mess she threw them in the floor. I mean remember they are crayons what do they weight and it was the mother in law no offense ill send you mine for free plus a couple thousand dollars with a quick reply on that! No you remember the child is yours you do what you feel is right!
2006-12-12 07:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by out dated prod! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, your mother in law is wrong! You cannot let kids get away with stuff like that or they will walk all over you! You should probably make sure that you m-in-law is disciplining your daughter in the same way that you do otherwise there might be problems down the road. I know that my monster-in-law..lol...sorry but it is true, she spoils our kids and lets them get away with everything under the sun when they stay the night. When the kids come home they think that they can throw tantrums and act like total brats to get their way just because of the one night they stayed there.
2006-12-16 04:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the way we raise out children is our buisness the mothers and mother-in-laws already did their time! But I do know no matter how old the children are if they are big enough to knock them over they are big enough to pick them up . And if they dont start minding us on any decision we make they will never mind us . So good job on you !
2006-12-12 07:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by chelle302002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. She has to learn that her actions have consequences. I don't think she will be dumping the crayons any more.
2006-12-12 07:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Cheyenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of a 17 year old and a 15 month I can tell you--you did the RIGHT thing!!!!!
Kids like to know exactly where their boundaries lay---you show her and she will follow. You sound like a GREAT mom!
2006-12-12 07:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were completely correct in your punishment. You didn;t hit, yell, or scream. You made her correct the action that was wrong. 3 years old is old enough to be learning proper and improper response to being upset. Your mother-in-law is jsut trying to coddle the child (1st grandkid maybe?)
2006-12-12 09:30:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋