i am suposed to be havin an afair with this girl who has got out of a lovin relationship and has just started cin a friend from work but she is only doit for fun but she spends a lot of time with me cud she be doin this 4 my attention? shes told me she has feelings for me am i just be played or is this my chance at havin a propper relationship ? plz help
2006-12-12 06:59:19 · 24 answers · asked by colonel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sure it is right...y u suspect in that
2006-12-12 07:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's either playing you, or being selfish and greedy.
Women have somethings common with men, and being a player is one. Women don't get caught so much as guys do. Anyway, if she really had feelings for you, she would have went for you after her long loving break up. But instead she went for another guy. Maybe she loves the attention, because she's never had it before, but don't let that be an excuse for her to use you. Because people do that a lot. The minute the get attention from someone, they tend to think that they are so special, and soon want attention from everyone. They want to be lavished in the thrill of having so many affairs, which seems exciting, but hurtful and heartbreaking in the end. You seem like you want more than just a booty call, and that's what she is right now. Move on, unless you like being the third wheel!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-12 07:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't go for it. If you plan to have a serious relationship, try it with someone that isn't trying all of the shoes in the store, get me? She cant truly care for you if she is just trying to have fun. If you think you can make her change and you want to give it a try then go for it, but I'd advise against it. Its never good to get with someone that just got out of a relationship and is looking for fun if you really want a serious relationship, especially not good when there is a friendship at risk. It sounds like she is on the rebound. Just make sure of what you really want.
2006-12-12 07:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by elena1209 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just got out of a relationship, she is on the rebound. I would say no because she is seeing the "friend" at work. If she was serious she wouldn't be doing that. Don't be the rebound guy. You pretty much answered your own question.
2006-12-12 07:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by LaHoma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having an afair with this girl then there is no structure for constructive relationship to be built.
2006-12-12 07:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice what u wrote: "having an affair"... if u dont mind being with her while she's seeing others than hey go for it..but if ur looking for a meaningful relationship... then she's not the one.. if u have any questions about ur realtionship ask her what her exact intentions are with ur relationship.
2006-12-12 07:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by clueless_idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is only down for YOU. if she just got out of a big relationship, she may be scared to find a new one. the attention she's getting feels good to her, so that is why she is seeing this other person.
2006-12-12 07:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has feelings for you then why is she seeing a friend from work and not you...??? Sounds like, to me, if you want a proper relationship..stop seeing girls who are already with someone and look for someone who knows what she wants!!
2006-12-12 07:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would think very hard first before getting to series. if she just got out of a relationship. ID let her have time to get her mind back its to soon to even think of a future together yet stay cool and go very slow..
2006-12-12 07:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by sexie1949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT a text message, PLEASE use at least half way decent spelling and english in your posts. If I were that girl and I saw this I would RUN, not walk, out the door.
2006-12-12 07:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be involved with a girl that messes with guys just for fun? no serious future for you. unless youre shallow too.
2006-12-12 07:02:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋