its a long distance relationship and i seriously dont trust my boyfriend its so hard because he tells me things that i dont want to know thing like girls who want him at work and that they always chat him up and ask him out, my friends tell me that cuz he has told me this that nothing is going on but becuz of the distance i dont know what he wil be getting up to. i cant help but phone and text him all the time what can i do?
2006-12-12 06:49:51 · 13 answers · asked by sexy_huni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump the boyfriend or drop the paranoia.
Choose.
2006-12-12 06:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He he its hard isnt it.
Ok he's para too thats why he's telling you about these girls sound stupid it is but heres the logic.
He thinks your tempted so he lets you know that its possible for him to do it too. Hence your detered from doing it because your thinking about how horrible it would be if it happened to you.
However it's a viscious cirlce eventually one of you will probably become so para you will actually think they have done it and probably feel justified in doing it too.
My advice talk to each other tell him you would never do anything like that dont get angry if he thinks you have its hard I know but consider his feelings and encourage him to consider your always fight negativity with positivity.
Even better screw the long distance thing and be with each other love is more important than anything else. You think your company, your college or whatever loves you?
2006-12-12 06:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Bohdisatva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone in the city that you can actually reach out and touch more often and when you need to. Long distance is hard and not for everyone. And try to find something to keep you busy besides constantly thinking about him and trying to check up on him. Take a class. Do some volunteer work, etc....
2006-12-12 06:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say this but what long distance relationship you know had last? Its never works. We all get jealous, its human nature. But I think he should go telling you about other women hitting on him, unless he likes seeing you a mess. Just move on, believe me your going to get hurt. You need someone by your side not on the other side of the phone.
2006-12-12 06:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by helpful friend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you ruining your life worring over what he "might" be doing. You either need to grow some trust in your man ( because thats the only way a long distance relationship is going to work ) or you need to just break up with him because you could be too immature for a long distance relationship! i hate to be so blunt with it, but you need trust in a relationship, and you just said that you dont have it. its never going to work!!
2006-12-12 06:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some faith, my man has been away for long periods at a time. If he is open with you and has told you then there is nothing to worry about, trust him if he wanted to cheat on you he could do it without you even knowing it. Don't mess a good thing with unfounded suspicion. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 06:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by antoinette c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important things in a relationship is trust. He should know better than to tell you thing that don't make you trust him.That is just crewl. I would dump him. He sounds like an imature jerk.
2006-12-12 06:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new project. Hard though it is, you can't have a long distance relationship with someone you can't trust, and you don't trust him. You could force yourself to trust him, but you'd be lying to yourself.
2006-12-12 06:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn to trust him, or this relationship will never work. has he ever given you any reason to not trust him? you have to ask yourself why you are so paranoid about him cheating? is it your own insecurity, or has he done something in the past to cause your doubts? if he has, you need to either forgive and forget or end the relationship and move on.
2006-12-12 06:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by KylieM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you about girls that 'want him' he's probably just needing you to reassure him and he's going about it the very wrong way. Anyone who brags to their boyfriend/girlfriend about flirting is extremely insecure and immature. Don't fall for it - he's wanting you to be jealous and paranoid. Decide if you want to date someone who wants you to feel negative feelings or move on.
2006-12-12 06:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋