I was wondering how i could build up my self confidence. when i speak to people that are the same sex as me (male) im fine. but when it comes to women, i dont no what to say. then when i do say somthing i start to get nervous :(
2006-12-12 06:42:41 · 6 answers · asked by jm_girling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was wondering how i could build up my self confidence. when i speak to people that are the same sex as me (male) im fine. but when it comes to women, i dont no what to say. then when i do say somthing i start to get nervous :(
its also hard because 2 of the girls at work are joking around saying they want me to take them on a date when i no there joking. now there all 2 of them are saying i turned them down. which is annoying because i no they where joking about it
2006-12-12 06:56:25 · update #1
Just take a deep breath before approaching them and believe in yourself...You shouldnt be nervous or afraid to approach a female...Because they are probably more nervous with the idea of you approaching them....Just think positive and upbeat!
2006-12-12 06:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, look in a mirror. Slowly say all the things that make you you and make you better then others. Say the things that arent so good about you and make you less then others. Then say the things that make you a human and equal with everyone.
My aunt gave me this exercise during my not so good teen years. It really made me feel like an equal and secure. Women love a man that is confident, so just have fun and go for it!
2006-12-12 06:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that part of the problem is that you are putting too much emphasis on this one person (whom you don't know). You probably think that if she doesn't like you, then you will never find another girl who is as great as her. Either that, or you are not sure what to expect.
First of all, you should realize that the opinion of just one person doesn't matter. If she doesn't like you, then somone else will. If she rejects you, then she missed out on getting to meet someone as nice as you, so she missed out (not the other way around). Tell yourself that you are giving her a chance to meet someone wonderful (you), and that it is her problem if she is too stupid to realize what a great find that you are. If you come across as too needy or too desperate, then you will probably scare her off. If you act as if it didn't matter if she likes you or not (because there are literally hundreds of other girls around that you could be talking to instead of her), then you are more likely to get her.
2006-12-12 06:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be nervous were human too. Just act natural. Be yourself. Just ask them questions about themselves.
2006-12-12 06:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by cutelil_bubble21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think girls are human beings with brains and sensibility and you can have lots of fun with them, be nice to them, they need it
2006-12-12 06:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is easy, just ask them questions, everyone likes to talk about themselves, let them do the talking, you just ask simple questions, about anything, school, hobbies, movies, favorite bar, favorite vacation they took, favorite car, endless questions!!!!
2006-12-12 06:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by besthusbandever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋