My sister whom im really close to and her daughter has gotten into a heated arguement and the daughter didnt want to send her children to her mothers anymore and both of them were calling me for advice and I told them.I am not taking sides but I will listen to you both.They asked me to relay messages back and forth which I knew I shouldnt because I would get the blame for things said..But I did anyways..Know since the mother and daughter made up but denies saying the things she said because she got caught in a lie and wont fess up so she tells her mom that I (Me) am lieing and she never said any of them things...So the daughter calls me up wanting to start an arguement to make herself look good and I knew she was going to do thins and I was prepared 4 her to call..We got into it on the phone Bad and I called her a lieing biach and I will not speak to her again until she tells the truth and admits that she DID say all them things.She denies them and I know she is lieing.What should IDo
2006-12-12 06:29:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The best thing to do is NOT engage in an argument with either of them. Getting angry and having a shouting match will only look like you're defending a guilty action and, if you're not guilty of anything but a bad decisions to get in the middle of a silly family fued, you have nothing to shout about. Simply explain to them that you love them both, wanted to help and realize that you made a mistake by becoming a go-between. Let them both know that you are happy that their relationship is mended but, you are upset that you are now perceived as the "bad guy/gal" and you'd like to put all of this behind you and move on! It's really all you can do. Getting into an arguement with your niece and calling her a "lying biach" is not going to solve anything. Just let it go and continue to hold your head up. You tried to help them...that's not a bad thing but, I'm sure that you now realize that staying neutral and distant from the battle is the safest. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-12-12 07:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by pillowtalk504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you had their best interest in mind, you should refuse to be in the middle from now on. No matter what you say now, there are 2 people that can contradict you. Just stop involving yourself altogether. Whenever anyone comes to you with a complaint about someone else, always tell them to go to the person about it. Don't get involved, especially when it's family. It never turns out well.
2006-12-12 06:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Micki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to call a sit down meeting between everyone, and set some ground rules. like not name calling, no screaming and yelling, and every one LETS the other finish what they are saying , no interruptions, ( have paper and pens so they can write down stuff, but no interruptions at all ) they MUST stay calm at all times..if we do have to take a break everyone agrees to come back to the table until we get it solved ...period
that what I would do
good luck
smile
2006-12-12 06:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was given some good advice as a young person...look at the situation, determine if it is life or death...if not, say your sorry for the misunderstanding and move on. The one in the lie will rectify things when he or she determines you didn't bite.
2006-12-12 06:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by mac5doc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i ought to like to hate particular kinfolk individuals yet I grew up in Church. Love and forgive through God. save in ideas, we are think to love others as God has loved us. that is troublesome to do, so commence out only showing recognize. best of luck. P.S. Your stepmom is a real friend.
2016-11-30 11:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your own counsel in future stay the heck out of family disputes..and for that matter friends disputes as well
you WILL ALWAYS be made a SCAPEGOAT in disputes you butt into...so rule No. 1. STAY OUT OF BUSINESS THAT IS NO CONCERN OF YOURS!!
2006-12-12 06:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wirte a letter to both and tell them you didnt say what she said you did and when they are ready to believe you and apoligize you will be there andleave it at that
2006-12-12 06:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by maria p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ha
2006-12-12 06:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by eggert 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Abby,,, my family hates me,,,
Dear Hated,,, so what,,,
2006-12-12 06:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Chazz Drizzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋