Let me start by saying, I live with a 26 yr old ,Im 41 bbw and used to treat me with the upmost respect until we moved in together now its like im a piece of dirt, I work in a public place where i am around other males,and ran into a old friend that now has feelings for me, I am so confused on what to do. This guy is 29,no steady job,the one i live with works at McDonalds,no future there either. Then theres a guy my sister knows that has 3 houses,steady income and a future that likes me to . Im tired of shuffling i need some help. I know what i should do but its hard to rid the one that lives with me. He is tryin so hard to do better,but feelings have changed. Please help
2006-12-12 06:14:17 · 13 answers · asked by melissas69er 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you ask me, it might be none of these guys that is right for you. the guy with money may seem to have it all together, but that doesn't mean he has no personality flaws. You need to find a mate based on certain standards which it seems you haven't done. What do you want out of life? Who would be the best person to share in that with you? Who is capable of giving you everything you need in a mate?
Set some standards for yourself, and then go and find the right guy. And for godsakes, get rid of the mcdonalds free-loader.
2006-12-12 06:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with the guy that lives with you and be honest to yourself. do u really want a 26 year old mcdonalds employee for a husband? or do u want someone with 3 houses and a steady income?? yeah the 29 year old is probably a "good" guy but face it. hes 29 and works at a MCDONALDS!! which theres nothing wrong with working there. when your 16 or even 20 years old. but 29 thats just way too damn old.plus you said he treats you like crap. hes a 29 mcdonalds employee who treats you like crap. your feelings have changed anyway so why is this a question. you know what you should do already. tell the 29 year old the truth. well maybe not about the other guy but tell him about your feelings changing for him.and that you think it would be better if you two got a little space from eachother. goodluck
2006-12-12 06:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it'll be hard, but the answer is tough love. I think you should let the ungrateful live-in go bye-bye. You have the better future with the others. Besides, no one should be treated like dirt from a guest. You've opened your home to him. Being treated like dirt from a guest is just rude and tacky. I also think it's the tip of the iceberg with this guy too. There more hidden treats waiting for you should you let him stay.
2006-12-12 06:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by LedAstray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl, I need you to re read your question and ask yourself which answer is the obvious choice and the funny thing is you already know it. That is what 20 something men do they try and try so they can get to where they wanna be when there 30 something or 40 something. You need to be with a stable man and quite make that young thang work sooooo hard when you have mixed feelings. Shouldn't play with life and love, you only have a couple of chances and you don;t want to miss out on your chance to truly be happy and not have to ask questions like these.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 06:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by ~InEvItAbLe~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes it is alil to late ya know when people try and change.... I would do what ever you are feeling because there is no use in wasting time with someone you have no feelings for anymore.. that is just being dihonest with him and yourself...
It will hurt him if you leave but he will get over it an move on... Time heals everything.... But the longer you wait the harder it will become to get rid of him... Good Luck
2006-12-12 06:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you string someone along??? If the feelings have changed then he has every right to know so that he can make an educated decision involving his life, don't ya think??? Act like an adult and communicate. Also why do you feel this need to have someone in your life? You can not be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself.
2006-12-12 06:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point you must move on. Does not mean that you should move on to another relationship. Take a breather. Have a casual date with the individual that you are most interested in DO NOT make any commitments.
2006-12-12 06:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I feel if you being treated without any respect you need to start respecting your self, and walk away. You need to find your self, you are worth love and respect and to be happy, don't let anyone tell you otherwise
2006-12-12 06:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you settle for less and kind of needy when it comes to men. Learn to love yourself, before loving someone else. Just now that everyone deserves the best out of life!!! Get rid of the loser and good things will come to you......
2006-12-12 06:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the lazzy and mean guy ... FAST...but dont go start a relationship with a new guy only becuse he is wealthy.
2006-12-12 06:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by sea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋