2006-12-12 06:07:16 · 24 answers · asked by Shirley T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The Wedding Poem
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A wedding is a special day
Where husband joins with wife,
In front of family and friends
They vow to share a life.
In sickness and in health they'll stay,
Through thickness and through thin,
Weddings are for sharing joy
And not for cashing in.
So as you plan the big event
To take vows with your honey
I remind you loud and clear
PLEASE DON'T ASK FOR MONEY!
2006-12-12 06:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
It is incredibly rude to ask your guests (yes guests, not customers) for gifts, let alone money, and it's just adding to the insult by asking for it in the form of a banal and illiterate poem. Good grief woman, have a bit of dignity. And before you again start going off on those who are questioning your personal ethics, may I ask do you ask all your guests, be it to your home for dinner or a cup of tea to family parties etc, for gifts and money? Do you? If you do not, why should these guests be treated as a cash cow and not others? Never expect gifts, and if you don't understand why look up what 'gift' means.
2016-05-23 00:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm demanding a gift
but it's not what you think
only cold hard cash
or we'll say you stink.
This question is asked in here numerous times and the answer remains the same:
There is no way to ask for money as a gift. Period.
Remember, this is a wedding, not a fundraiser. You need to register someplace, but feel free to spread via word of mouth that gift cards and cash is a preferred gift.
Personally, I never give cash or gift cards as it puts a value on friendship and says "here, I don't have time for you, go buy your own gift." If anyone ever had the nerve to include that in an invite, I'd send them a nice card.
2006-12-12 06:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry I don't know of it but I'd like to mention to everyone who's so up in arms about it....your family wants to give you a present that's useful some people are already living together and have set up homes. We're running into this problem for our wedding because we don't want to have family waste money on another toaster or blender or some china we're never going to use. But they WANT to give a gift and all we need is money. There are sites where you can register for a honeymoon which is probably what we're going to do.
http://www.honeymoonwishes.com/
That's one of them. There are also "create your own registry" type things through american express or something I've heard where you type in what you would spend the money on (house payment, car payment, etc etc) and the guest decides which they'd like to contribute to. I don't think any of those are tacky. I hope you find your poem.
2006-12-12 14:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Money nowdays is PERFECTLY acceptable - don't let anyone tell you its not
there is this poem that might help
More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with love and care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in out home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day is complete having you as our guest
2006-12-13 08:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by snorlaxjen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Making a rude request into a cutesy poem does not make it any less RUDE. Please, please, please-- do NOT do this.
It is rude to put mention of gifts in your invitations AT ALL (even if it is to say that you prefer not to receive any).
Just sit back and let people gift you with whatever they want to give. Many will give money anyway, just out of laziness or dislike of shopping. So there's no need at all to make a rude and crass request.
And whatever people give you, be grateful for it and send a thank you note for each item ASAP upon opening it. (GET THOSE THANK YOU NOTES READY!!!)
You don't want to be remembered as a rude wedding couple. People will talk about you for generations.
A wedding is not a fundraiser. You are not a charity.
2006-12-12 12:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only way to ask for specific gifts, either of cash or from a registry, is by word of mouth from parents, members of the bridal party, etc. It is considered very poor etiquette to put any request for gifts, monetary or otherwize, in the wedding invitation. Here's a good article...
http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI980914213919&keywordID=159&keywordType=2&parentID=527
2006-12-12 06:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Here's two:
Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
We have the kettles, the toasters, the linen
All we lack now is a house to put it in.
If you would like to give us a gift,
We know of something that would give us a lift
Please donate your love to our own little 'Well'
How grateful we'd be, we just cannot tell.
To save you from looking, shopping, or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you don’t mind trying.
Come to our wedding to wish us both well,
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Your wishes will be used to find a home of our own
Which we will have you to thank, when our family has grown
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come and celebrate with us!
2006-12-12 14:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Country Girl for Life 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
No matter how you phrase it, or write it as a silly poem, or whatever, asking for cash is TACKY. Don't do it. Be grateful for the thoughtfulness of your guests. You are throwing the wedding to get married and share your special day -- NOT to get presents or cash.
2006-12-12 07:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No i haven't, and i think it's really tacky to ask for money. You should be grateful for whatever gifts your guests bring. A wedding is not about presents or money.
2006-12-12 06:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's called "I'm Tacky". If you want money instead of gifts, don't register and have your relatives and wedding party spread the word. If it was asked for in an invitation, I probably wouldn't go to the greedy bastard's wedding and they certainly wouldn't get anything. I feel the same way about putting registry cards in invites. If I want to buy someone a gift I can find out where they are registered and do so.
2006-12-12 06:10:13 · answer #11 · answered by rattgrrrl 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋